My Birth Son Probably Doesn't Know He's Adopted

I recently found out my birth son was likely never told he was adopted, and has been publicly speaking out about an ancestral heritage that, genetically, isn't entirely true. And I'm worried -- nay, freaked out -- about how he might feel, if he discovers his adoptive cultural background and biological background don't match....more
@Elaine Park Cannot *imagine* what on earth you mean :D :D more

My Birth Son Probably Doesn't Know He's Adopted

I recently found out my birth son was likely never told he was adopted, and has been publicly speaking out about an ancestral heritage that, genetically, isn't entirely true. And I'm worried -- nay, freaked out -- about how he might feel, if he discovers his adoptive cultural background and biological background don't match....more
Please just tell him!   He can make the decision, now, as an adult, how he wants to deal with ... more

Announcing the Voices of the Year '12 Honorees and Readers!

Today we are pleased and proud to announce the next group of people who will see that view for themselves. It's time to announce the final 2012 BlogHer Voices of the Year!...more
Oops, people are congratulating me but it's Liz Henry from Six Year Itch who lives in Philly, ... more

Should Polyamorous Parents Raise a Child Together?

My mom watches Good Morning America, affectionately known by the acronym GMA, every day. Living away from home has made me miss it and all its ridiculousness; while the first five minutes are devoted to actual news, the rest is made up of trendy lifestyle pieces like this one, about a woman and two men in a polyamorous relationship. Unlike the Browns of TLC's Sister Wives, Jaiya Ma, Jon Hanauer, and Ian Ferguson are not in a polygamous relationship. My thoughts on this kind of living situation are mixed. If there weren't a child involved, I would have no problems with it at all. ...more
Frankly, I find this title is a bit offensive. What do you suggest people who are poly and have ... more

What Are You Reading? November 2011

I can't decide if I am really happy that October is behind me (October is always super busy at my house) or if I'm slightly panicked at the idea of it being November 2011 already. Where did 2011 go? Maybe I should just hide my head in a pile of books for the rest of the year. I have plenty of goodies to choose from. Here's what I'm tentatively looking at.

(Trigger Alert) Updated: Texas Judge Beats Daughter, And I'm So Glad She Taped It

I have never written a post before while sobbing. And I'm not being melodramatic -- this video has taken something primal in my brain and it is responding to this girl's cries. I feel insane with anger right now. Please know if you read this post, you will be disturbed. I'm writing it because abuse needs to be exposed, and this man needs to be punished. ...more
To me it read like the mom was trying to protect her daughter by taking over the "discipline" ... more

(Trigger Alert) Updated: Texas Judge Beats Daughter, And I'm So Glad She Taped It

I have never written a post before while sobbing. And I'm not being melodramatic -- this video has taken something primal in my brain and it is responding to this girl's cries. I feel insane with anger right now. Please know if you read this post, you will be disturbed. I'm writing it because abuse needs to be exposed, and this man needs to be punished. ...more
I'd also like to say I think this is an important video to show to teenagers. It shows the power ... more

(Trigger Alert) Updated: Texas Judge Beats Daughter, And I'm So Glad She Taped It

I have never written a post before while sobbing. And I'm not being melodramatic -- this video has taken something primal in my brain and it is responding to this girl's cries. I feel insane with anger right now. Please know if you read this post, you will be disturbed. I'm writing it because abuse needs to be exposed, and this man needs to be punished. ...more
The poster of the video is 23 or 24 now. She taped this years ago and only just posted it. ... more

(Trigger Alert) Updated: Texas Judge Beats Daughter, And I'm So Glad She Taped It

I have never written a post before while sobbing. And I'm not being melodramatic -- this video has taken something primal in my brain and it is responding to this girl's cries. I feel insane with anger right now. Please know if you read this post, you will be disturbed. I'm writing it because abuse needs to be exposed, and this man needs to be punished. ...more
Reportedly, his 12 year old daughter is still (at least partly) in his care. She's the little ... more

The Unintended Consequences of Cyberbullying Rhetoric

We all know that teen bullying - both online and offline - has devastating consequences. Jamey Rodemeyer's suicide is a tragedy. He was tormented for being gay. He knew he was being bullied and he regularly talked about the fact that he was being bullied. Online, he even wrote: "I always say how bullied I am, but no one listens. What do I have to do so people will listen to me?" The fact that he could admit that he was being tormented coupled with the fact that he asked for help and folks didn't help him should be a big wake-up call. We have a problem. ...more
That was a great paper! I especially liked this summary of the gender issues, which struck ... more