Why Can't A Mom Enjoy Elf On The Shelf At Christmas?

Warning. A "cranky, I've had it rant" follows. Hang with me, okay? Well here we are, barely into the month of December and already I've seen more bitterness about what some moms do over others in terms of the Christmas season. I've already read an ugly handful of articles that mock moms just like me, with dozens of people patting them on the back. And you know what? I'm already sick of it. ...more
My kids are grown up, but if Elf on the Shelf had existed back when they were little, you can ... more

Don’t Read His Post If You Hate Fatphobia, Says Wil Wheaton

I support health at every size. I support doing what you personally have to do to feel good in your skin, and in your body. And if that means weight loss, then it means weight loss—in a healthy way that works for you, not by super-restrictive diets and starvation. So, Wil Wheaton, who recently mentioned that he was working on getting healthier and wanted to share that with his fans, has my full support. I totally think it's great he wants to be healthier. ...more
I don't see generic fat-hate here.  I see personal fat-hate, but that doesn't mean he's putting ... more

9 Tips for Quick Trips: How (and Why) to Pack Light

Now that most airlines charge to check bags, the words “carry-on only” are becoming more attractive. When packing for a trip, I’m in the “less is more” camp. My packing tips fit my comfort zone and the kind of traveler I am. Will they work for you?...more
With a carry-on and a laptop bag, I'm good for a week.  More, if there's a washing machine.  And ... more

The One '70s Album You Should Share with Your Daughter

Quick: What’s the first thing you think of when you hear Marlo Thomas? For me, it’s That Girl and Free to Be You and Me. Apparently, not everyone remembers her the way I do, though: Me: I used to love That Girl. Marge: What girl? Me: Marlo Thomas. Marge: Marlo Thomas wasn’t in That Girl. What’s-her-name was in that show. Oh, what’s her name? You know the one who was in that show with Ed Asner? ...more
We need to share it with our sons, too!  "Free to Be You and Me" was a family staple; my kids ... more

I've Taught My Daughter to Hate

“Boo! Hiss!” That is what my daughter will yell out whenever we drive by a McDonald's or a Burger King. On occasion, she will also stick out her tongue at the massively popular fast food chains. And you know what? This behavior totally warms my kale-eating, Greek yogurt-loving, grass-fed beef burger-grilling heart.  Image: greg westfall ...more
Teaching and encouraging a child to hate?  My mind is blown.  No.  This is not how it's done. more

We ARE Pregnant: Why Mila Kunis Is Wrong

When Mila Kunis made her rant about men with pregnant mates saying “we are pregnant,” I heard a collective cheer from mothers and mothers-to-be from every end of the universe. And while I understand the difference between being pregnant and being WITH someone who is pregnant, I have to say that I don’t agree. Many men and wives of doting husbands would beg to differ as well. ...more
I am pregnant, and WE are expecting.  (I'm not pregnant.) more

BlogHer Is For Women. Not Just Some Women.

You know, so many websites and conferences and literature and whatnot that welcome women of, how shall I put this, a 'certain age,' are very condescending even when they don't realize it....more
Denise and Elisa, you are both so kind.  Thank you in advance for missing me. I'll be following ... more

Why "Mommy Juice" Scares the Hell Out of Me

I remember crying when I first saw When a Man Loves a Woman in the theater as a high schooler. I cried in reaction to Meg Ryan's character's helplessness [recklessness as a mother], and then her empowerment through sobriety; I cried about the love the film portrayed, and the relationship that was forever altered. I had yet to taste my first drink. ...more
I have never heard of "Mommy Juice," but I do have a real problem with a parent or caregiver ... more

Does My Husband Have to Spend Mother's Day With His Mother?

Dear TMH, Mother's Day is coming up, which would be wonderful in theory. A day to sleep in and be treated like royalty, right? However, my MIL lives nearby, and that raises some issues. Am I obligated to spend the day with her? She seems to expect us to do something with her, and I don't really want to do that.  My husband is caught in the middle, because he wants to make us both happy. But hasn't she had her share of Mother's Days?Help!Signed,It's MY Day, Dammit...more
It's Mother's Day.  Are you his mother?  No?  Then he owes you nothing on Mother's Day.  He ... more

The 10 Worst Prom Dresses of 2014

Scrolling through some popular prom dress sites today, I witnessed crimes against fashion, not to mention propriety. I saw perfectly adorable trends like peplums, neons, ruffles, and pastels massacred in cold blood. I saw highly dubious trends like Dynasty-esque beading, cutouts, ruffles, and the inexplicable (to me, anyway) pageant-ish ballgown look cross the line from tasteless to felonious. And—oh, the humanity—THE COST. Yes, cold hard cash is the motive for these crimes. ...more
I have always wondered why liking something is not passing judgment, but disliking something is ... more