How Kate Winslet Taught Me I'm Not Showing My Daughters the Right Things About Body Image

Recently, I’ve started to see my daughters’ bodies changing. Not quite puberty yet, but a little rounder here, a little curvier there. Yep, it’s almost time to have “the talks” in my house. I’ve done my best to protect their body images. I never talk about diet, although they rarely see me eat bread or pasta (seriously, goes right to my hips), try not to complain (to them) about the wrinkles and sags, and never complain when my jeans feel too tight. ...more
Great Advice! I love the concept that we must embrace ourselves to show our children how to ... more

We Are Not Our Mothers, and Our Daughters Are Not Us

Even though I’m a mother, I was a daughter first. And I have two sisters. Like most women, we have often said to ourselves and each other that we were worried about becoming our mother. (Sorry, Mom.) I think it’s a natural thing that girls tend to be terrified of. ...more
I believe mothers worry too much. Perhaps one of the best things we can do is embrace ourselves ... more

Big Bang Theory

When I was a kid, my stylist recommended bangs all the time. She would sit me down in the kitchen chair - the one with brown faux leather and two wooden steps that folded out to create a ladder/chair, throw an apron over me, and ever so slowly use the kitchen scissors to cut a clean flat line across my wet hair. I can still feel the slightly ticklish, slightly menacing cold metal above my eyebrows. I can also hear the delicate, crisp cut of my hair and the metal swishing sound inside my head....more

Maegan, thanks so much for reposting to the homepage!

It's amazing the camaraderie between ... more


The other day someone asked me what it felt like, jumping from a steady, stable day job into a fresh start as a freelancer. My answer? So far, it feels a lot like diving headfirst into a pool of freezing water, right in the middle of winter. I’ve plunged from the warm security of a full-time, corporate job into the icy cold waters of freelance — and right now, my lips are a little blue....more

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19 1/2 Weeks Post Chemo......"Bitter is the New Black"

I walked out this afternoon to a semi-flat tire. Upon further inspection, I noticed a nail stuck in my tire which resulted in an emergency trip to Fire Stone Tire to get it repaired. I spent my two and a half hour wait at one of my favorite stores, Barnes & Noble. I was running low on books to read so the flat tire was a little bit of a blessing in disguise. As I was browsing the fiction section, one book in particular jumped out at me and I knew I had to buy it....more

I love your perspective on post-Cancer life. Isn't it amazing you lament on the days when your ... more

Bloggy Guidelines for New Bloggers

I'm not exactly sure why, but these past few weeks I've had at least five or six new bloggers email me and ask me for tips and suggestions to help them grow their blogs. I have responded back to each blogger that's asked me individually, but I figure if there are a few bloggers that are asking, there are probably other people out there wondering the same things. I'm no expert , I've only been doing this for a year, but I have learned some things along the way. ...more

Can you tell me why a black background is so horribly taboo?! I would think it's a nice break ... more

Run Like A Mother#%^$@!

I used to be apprehensive about the softness of motherhood. Not just the fleshy jiggle that comes with sacrificing your workouts and your hard earned miniskirt to birth a human but also the loft that begins to define your social life and the unabashed need to be emotionally available when raising a child....more

I completely agree MBL. I am so concerned about how to raise my daughter to have loads of ... more

Did I Give Up Everything Wonderful and Pretty to Become a Mom?

A birth control commercial currently showing on tv depicts a handful of young, attractive women entering what appears to be a store of dreams. Everything is in miniature – here is a beautiful house, there is a trip to Paris. Two women even grab for the same good-looking guy. But when a stork carrying a little bundle of joy approaches one of the women, she shoos it away, quickening her step to avoid impending motherhood. Honestly, I think I see just the slightest wave of terror cross her face. ...more


I love this piece mostly because it is unabashedly honest about how some moments of ... more

Girl-illas in the Midst: Teaching Our Daughters how to Maneuver through the Friend Zone

For the last 12 1/2 years I have been living in the field studying my subjects. Hours have been painstakingly spent learning their eating habits, social dynamics, ability to adapt, and communication skills. I’ve collected valuable information about their predators and who are their  prey. Living among them has been difficult. At times I think my presence goes unnoticed, blending in to the environment and yet at other times, it is clear that they are visibly agitated that I exist. And yet, even with all this data, I feel like I have barely scratched the surface of understanding this unpredictable creature called Girl....more

I love your last paragraph becuase I was thinking, "Should I be more embarrassed that I find ... more