When Your Idol Disappoints

What is beauty?If we spent our whole lives searching for what’s beautiful, we’d still die without seeing perfection. That’s because in many ways, beauty is in the imperfect. It’s in the many thousands of ways we perceive our surroundings, and it’s ever-changing.Today I might find a certain kind of flower beautiful, while tomorrow it might be another kind altogether.My daughter was beautiful as a baby and now, as a young woman, I still believe she is beautiful even though she has changed so much over 19 years....more

70.3 Training: Getting My Booty In Gear

There's something about trying to do too much that creates nothing but chaos and leads to getting absolutely nothing done.For months I said: I’m going to train…tomorrow.I’ve been tired since the Poconos – both mentally and physically.But it wasn’t until Thursday when I mentioned a new race to my most favorite triathlete that I realized: I need an assistant to just track race calendars....more
First, I love baseball!   Maybe it's luck, but I have some of the best motivators out there in ...more

What Color Is Love?

What color is love? If you fell in love before 1967, then love was white or black but never both at the same time.If, by some miracle, you were able to look past the racism that was so firmly entrenched in American society, or, if you could see a future filled with happiness even if your friends and family ostracized you, or you could image a world where your mixed ‘race’ children would be accepted by society, then, maybe…just maybe…love came in a variety of colors....more

On Penn State, Sexual Assault and Silence...

Through most of my summer of triathlon training, my inner monologue always began with “What Would Diana (Nyad) Do?”  Whenever I thought that I couldn’t swim any longer or bike any further or run any faster, I would catch a glimpse of her in the middle of the ocean doing these extreme (to many of us) training swims of eight or nine hours and that would be just the thing I needed to get outside....more

Can Love Really Travel Back In Time...

And heal a broken heart?...Have you ever had a moment in your life that you play over and over in your mind?You know you can't go back and change the outcome, but you also know what you would do if time travel were possible.There are a few of those moments in my life, but one of the most recent happened last September. I had a chance to spend the day with someone I love and I can remember exactly what was on my mind before they left: Something is wrong....more

You Ever Put Your Arms Out...

...And spin really, really fast?When I mentioned to a blogging friend of mine that I wanted to use Practical Magic as the theme for this series, I had to send her the various quotes I would use so she could give me her thoughts on them.Her immediate response was...you've pulled the best ones. That made the outline so much easier....more

You Can't Practice Witchcraft (Or Date)...

...While you look down your nose at it.Or, why we're all 'here' or 'there'. I have been dating for almost a year now. It has been some kind of magical ride on some days, and some traumatizing moments at others.I have met men who have been truly fantastic. Smart, charming, artistic, loving and considerate.But I haven't really 'fallen' for anyone (well, except one, but, well...anyway, timing sucks.)...And yet I haven't found the ability to be discouraged by dating, but rather I am intrigued by how we all do it....more

And The Greatest Of These Is Love...

'The guy I dreamed of doesn't exist. And if he doesn't exist, I'll never die of a broken heart.'I was sitting at home the other night, minding my own business, when I noticed that "Practical Magic" was playing on my TV.Now, of course, I assumed that only my television had access to one of my most favorite movies, but in truth, as I mentioned my night to my girlfriends, many of them were watching it at the same time.Kismet.To wish for a perfect person because you know you will never find him or her....more

Take This Pink Ribbon Off My Eyes...

...I'm exposed, and it's no big surprise.I used to think that when I became a parent, I would totally suck. I mean, my mom was limited in her ability to be a good mom, based on a number of things. So what the hell would I know about raising a kid? All I knew was that more than anything, I wanted a daughter.I wanted to teach her to use her voice to command the world. Not just a small corner of it, but the entire world. I wanted to teach her that being a girl is an amazing thing. That she could be anything, do anything, go anywhere....more

Mea Culpa…Linguaphopes and Linguaphiles…

My best friend is from the Philippines. He’s been here since he was 7. As the second oldest of four brothers, he had lots of time to practice his English. You’d almost never know that he was brought up speaking Tagalog, except when he loses patience with someone and starts to get upset. Then the accent shines through....more