Stop Taking Pictures of Memories You Aren't Really Making

As fast as they excitedly walked up to drive the tractor, they were equally rushed to leave it. In that moment, it dawned on me for a repeated time: we are constantly so busy getting the best pictures for the notorious annual Facebook celebrations that we are forgetting to have the memories that drive these pictures in the first place. "Go sit on that pumpkin! Put your face in that scarecrow head hole! Hold your pumpkin and smile in the great lighting! Ok let's go home and upload these..." ...more
How is it that you wrote a post two weeks ago apologizing to moms and saying essentially, "You ... more

A Toast to Building Movements and Challenging the Status Quo

It’s nearly a year since BlogHer and SheKnows Media joined forces, and I’m excited to share that BlogHer, Inc. is now completely in the capable hands of SheKnows Media and CEO Philippe Guelton....more
Thank you. I remember flying to San Francisco. I'd spent the previous year weeping that I never ... more

My Alternate Three-Word Bio Is: All. About. Community.

We're big fans of the three-word bio here at SheKnows Media. Check out our email signatures. Check out my social profiles. Today my official three-word bio changes....more
Wishing you all continued success and evolution. I feel like in many ways I grew up with each of ... more

The Day I Heard Her Dad Tell Her, "Not Bad for a Girl"

"Not bad for a girl." It made me cringe from the top of my head down the tips of my blue-painted toenails. Words spoken by a father to his little girl about her belt promotion in karate. It wasn't meant to be mean. He was just kidding. It was their little inside joke. He couldn't be prouder, actually. But he still said the words. And she still heard them. ...more
Yup, the repetition of things, even in jest, adds up. I've heard the other side of this, with a ... more

8 Things to Do With Your Submission If It Gets Rejected

Anyone who has been submitting writing for any length of time has most likely gotten a rejection (or just never heard back) from a site they submitted to. I've had plenty! Don't get frustrated; the universe is just telling you it belongs somewhere else (or so I tell myself). Be sure to keep track of where you have submitted things to help you manage what to do with it if you get a rejection or no response. Here are some options for your rejected posts that may end up being even better than your original submission intent! ...more
These are great. It's easy to slip into a pit of despair, or at least it is for me! I recently ... more

My Little Brother Just Turned 40

My little brother turned 40 the other day. That makes me 43, I hate to say.I feel older than that, my life's over I'm fearing.What's that you say? I'm losing my hearing.I remember us as kids playing outside.Making leaf houses and on bikes we would ride.We played Circus Atari, killing the stick man with glee.We'd practice stunts with him balanced on my knee.I laughed at his Ken doll with its girl-like "down there"...Then my Barbie dolls would suddenly be missing their hair....more
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Beyoncé! Why I Need Her New ' 7/11' Video To Break the Internet

It's been a rough week.   Kim Kardashian's oily backside and everyone's reenactments of her Paper Mag photos are still trying to break the internet.  We're still waiting for a grand jury indictment announcement in Ferguson, where Gov. Jay Nixon has already issued a state of emergency and police are mobilizing.  ...more
Yup, she's winning me over. This was delicious. more

NaBloPoMo: Add All Your November 2014 Posts Here!

Here's where you share the link to every NaBloPoMo post you're writing on your blog daily this month -- and share your words with the world! In fact, we're going to be culling out some great posts from the list below and paying you to feature them on BlogHer during the month of November to celebrate NaBloPoMo. ...more
Thank you so much for spearheading this incredible resource for all of us who may be ... more

Shut Up And Just Say Thank You

To quote an over-quoted Charles Dickens, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…”  ...more
Oh, wow. I think I probably would have responded the same way. I am sure that your response ... more

When Will We Stop Counting the 9/11s?

It's September 11 again. And I'm dreading it. I want September 11 to go back to being just another day in the early fall. Is this wrong?...more
I write about it each year, some years I publish my thoughts, others I don't. For me it's a kind ... more