Should I Give My Boyfriend a Marriage Ultimatum?

Whenever I talk to my boyfriend about planning our future life together his answer is always the same: "You know that I love you and we already share money, an apartment, and (formerly) a car so what more do you need?" I need progress. Should I give him a marriage ultimatum? ...more
I think this is a difficult question to answer because everyone's different in regards to what ... more

Do You Answer Your Tween's Sex Questions?

I was at a neighborhood cookout over the weekend, and ended up in the kitchen with a bunch of moms. We all had kids in the pre-teen and under range, and as moms are wont to do, we were swapping stories and laughing at our kids and ourselves. ...more
 @SingleMomtism I guess now that I've calmed down and I stop to think about it, the whole ... more

Do You Answer Your Tween's Sex Questions?

I was at a neighborhood cookout over the weekend, and ended up in the kitchen with a bunch of moms. We all had kids in the pre-teen and under range, and as moms are wont to do, we were swapping stories and laughing at our kids and ourselves. ...more
I agree with you 100%.  I was really surprised how viscerally angry I got as I read the lines ... more

Online Reputation Management for Sex Bloggers

I chose to live a transparent life, to come "out" as a sex blogger because I believe being out is a safer place to be than being in the closet. Make no mistake, I'm no altruist; I do what I do because doing it makes my situation better than not doing it. The reason I am so strongly supportive of other people choosing to live an open life is solely because coming out of the closet is a vaccine against blackmail, emotional abuse, and shame. ...more
I appreciate this post.  As a fledgling sex blogger, it's been an issue of some concern as I've ... more

How I Found Out My Four-Year-Old Son is Sexist

According to the all-knowing Internet, the average 4-year-old asks about 400 questions a day. I’d say that’s a lowball number. Or my son is an over-achiever. Matthew asks questions all the time, all day long. One minute he’s sitting quietly in his car seat in the back of the car, humming “Bad Moon Rising” and absentmindedly picking his nose, and the next moment he’s asking, “But, Mommy? How does the baby get IN the mommy’s tummy?” ...more
Kids say the darnedest things, don't they? more

What Were You Talking About on Your Blog a Year Ago?

The nicest part about keeping a blog is looking backwards, perhaps in yearly increments, to see how life has changed. When we're in the moment, it can feel as if the now may last forever, or, at the very least, the feelings invoked by what is happening now may last forever. But if you jump backwards into your archives, you can revisit posts and see that often times, while reading about the event may still bring with it sadness or joy, the intensity of those feelings are not as they were when you wrote the post. ...more
A year ago I was living on my friend Suzi's couch and signing a lease on an apartment, which I'm ... more

The Five-Second Rule of Homeschooling: What About Socialization?

Ever since my partner and I decided that the private school our kids have attended for the past three years was beyond our budget for the indefinite future, and that we would homeschool for as long as we need to, I keep hearing the same thing: “What about socialization?”...more
 @emilyguybirken I don't know how common this is across the board, but remembering back to when ... more

Do Your Friends Know About Your Blog?

Uh... does your partner know about your blog? He Loves Me Not has a great post about coming out as a blogger to her new boyfriend. Though he knew that she had once blogged in a now defunct space, he didn't know that she was currently blogging, sometimes even about him. It's a great post about being as honest with the people in your face-to-face world as you are with the faceless people of the Internet. ...more
Most everyone I know knows that I'm a blogger and have been for a long long time. I'm the sort ... more

Do You Return to See if Your Comment Was Answered?

You leave a comment, perhaps even asking a question or making a point that you know would be volleyed back if you were in a face-to-face conversation, and sometimes the blogger picks up the thread and answers you back to continue the exchange of thoughts and sometimes they don't depending on technical limitations, time, or connection.  But the question is: do you return to the comment section to see if it was answered there? ...more
Unless the comment happened to be about a subject that I was super passionate about, I rarely go ... more

Living Together with Separate Bedrooms: Good Idea or Bad?

When I tried to imagine what it would be like to be married, all I could think about was having -- at the very least -- my own room. My best friend thought I was crazy, telling me some of the best and most intimate conversations happened in bed between couples. Dr. Phil even agrees separate bedrooms are a bad idea, so then why do one in four U.S. couples have separate bedrooms? What do you think -- are separate bedrooms helpful or more likely to hurt a relationship? ...more
When my partner and I first discussed moving in together, separate bedrooms were a must. While ... more