Coming Out to Play

I'm going to my happy place in a few days to celebrate my 40th birthday with my mom and my sister. Yippee! Well, I have lots of happy places, actually. In Henry's arms. Where two rivers meet in Vermont. A certain chair in my livingroom when a fire is burning in the fireplace. Sunday mornings in bed. The library. The front seat of any car at the beginning of a road trip. Martha's Vineyard any time of year....more

I'm a water lover too, sassymonkey. I grew up going to Martha's Vineyard. The ocean's in my ... more

Sex Education That Works

I always thought that I was pretty old when I had sex for the first time (19), but Alan Guttmacher Institute reports that I was completely average. It turns out that 70% of unmarried teens in American have sex by the time they are 19. (OK, fine I was on the older end of the spectrum, but whatever.) I waited, despite intense pressure from a boyfriend in high school, because I wasn't ready and I knew it. It was a good decision for me. Other girls may be ready earlier, and those are their decisions, too....more

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Sex Education That Works

I always thought that I was pretty old when I had sex for the first time (19), but Alan Guttmacher Institute reports that I was completely average. It turns out that 70% of unmarried teens in American have sex by the time they are 19. (OK, fine I was on the older end of the spectrum, but whatever.) I waited, despite intense pressure from a boyfriend in high school, because I wasn't ready and I knew it. It was a good decision for me. Other girls may be ready earlier, and those are their decisions, too....more

and it was described as something like "New study says, "Abstinence-only sex ed really can ... more

Celebrate BlogHer's 5th Anniversary With Us and Win One of Five Free Passes With #BlogHer5

Today BlogHer begins celebrating our fifth anniversary.When Elisa, Jory and I met five years ago and decided to organize BlogHer's first conference, we had no idea that in 2010 BlogHer would be the go-to community for women who blog and use social media to get their word out. It was February 2005, and we just wanted to answer the question "Where are the women bloggers?" for good -- so we put our credit cards on the table, put our hands on our keyboards and got to work suggesting a conference that became BlogHer '05 for 300+ people.Today BlogHer is not just a conference, but a community that gave rise to a growing media company that reaches 20+ million people. We come together to write the award-winning BlogHer.com news service, to publish Fortune 500 advertising on more than 2,500 superb blogs, and, of course, for events and conferences. With a team of 44 amazing human beings, via offices in New York and Silicon Valley and a growing number of fantastic sponsors who believe in women who blog, BlogHer, Inc. helps women who blog get read, get speaking gigs, get press and marketing for their writing and, if a blogger who embraces our editorial standards is interested in a publisher, get paid. We've loved every minute of it. As always, we want to hear what you think -- and we'd like to thank you with an anniversary present: We're giving away five BlogHer '10 conference passes. Here's how to participate:Step 1: Write a post, comment or Tweet tagged #BlogHer5 on any one of the following topics. Whichever one you choose, it can be abut anything BlogHer, including conference, site and network. Here are your five ways to play: 5 words: Define BlogHer in five words 5 connections: You made through BlogHer 5 pictures: You took at a BlogHer event 5 issues: BlogHer should tackle in the next 5 years 5 opportunities: You’ve gotten because of blogging or BlogHerStep #2: You can leave a comment here with your #BlogHer5 thoughts, but if you choose to blog or tweet, please come back and leave a link to your thoughts in the comments here.  We’ll give 5 BlogHer ‘10 passes at random by February 15, pulling from all of the people who leave a comment here with their #BlogHer5 entry. The pass will be yours to keep or share. (Apologies, but we just cannot track the Twitterverse or BlogHerVerse accurately enough to give everyone a chance to compete fairly for a pass.). So let's get this party started: You've earned it. Together this community has played an important leadership role in demonstrating the sheer power of women using social media -- as writers, commentators, readers, consumers, change agents and entrepreneurs.We are just so proud to be part of this community. Here's to the next five years. :) Best, Lisa for Elisa, Jory and Lisa BlogHer Co-foundersLisa Stone BlogHer Co-founder, Surfette  BlogHer is non-partisan but our bloggers aren't! Follow our coverage of Politics & News....more

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Celebrate BlogHer's 5th Anniversary With Us and Win One of Five Free Passes With #BlogHer5

Today BlogHer begins celebrating our fifth anniversary.When Elisa, Jory and I met five years ago and decided to organize BlogHer's first conference, we had no idea that in 2010 BlogHer would be the go-to community for women who blog and use social media to get their word out. It was February 2005, and we just wanted to answer the question "Where are the women bloggers?" for good -- so we put our credit cards on the table, put our hands on our keyboards and got to work suggesting a conference that became BlogHer '05 for 300+ people.Today BlogHer is not just a conference, but a community that gave rise to a growing media company that reaches 20+ million people. We come together to write the award-winning BlogHer.com news service, to publish Fortune 500 advertising on more than 2,500 superb blogs, and, of course, for events and conferences. With a team of 44 amazing human beings, via offices in New York and Silicon Valley and a growing number of fantastic sponsors who believe in women who blog, BlogHer, Inc. helps women who blog get read, get speaking gigs, get press and marketing for their writing and, if a blogger who embraces our editorial standards is interested in a publisher, get paid. We've loved every minute of it. As always, we want to hear what you think -- and we'd like to thank you with an anniversary present: We're giving away five BlogHer '10 conference passes. Here's how to participate:Step 1: Write a post, comment or Tweet tagged #BlogHer5 on any one of the following topics. Whichever one you choose, it can be abut anything BlogHer, including conference, site and network. Here are your five ways to play: 5 words: Define BlogHer in five words 5 connections: You made through BlogHer 5 pictures: You took at a BlogHer event 5 issues: BlogHer should tackle in the next 5 years 5 opportunities: You’ve gotten because of blogging or BlogHerStep #2: You can leave a comment here with your #BlogHer5 thoughts, but if you choose to blog or tweet, please come back and leave a link to your thoughts in the comments here.  We’ll give 5 BlogHer ‘10 passes at random by February 15, pulling from all of the people who leave a comment here with their #BlogHer5 entry. The pass will be yours to keep or share. (Apologies, but we just cannot track the Twitterverse or BlogHerVerse accurately enough to give everyone a chance to compete fairly for a pass.). So let's get this party started: You've earned it. Together this community has played an important leadership role in demonstrating the sheer power of women using social media -- as writers, commentators, readers, consumers, change agents and entrepreneurs.We are just so proud to be part of this community. Here's to the next five years. :) Best, Lisa for Elisa, Jory and Lisa BlogHer Co-foundersLisa Stone BlogHer Co-founder, Surfette  BlogHer is non-partisan but our bloggers aren't! Follow our coverage of Politics & News....more

Like all great women, Blogher ... more

Celebrate BlogHer's 5th Anniversary With Us and Win One of Five Free Passes With #BlogHer5

Today BlogHer begins celebrating our fifth anniversary.When Elisa, Jory and I met five years ago and decided to organize BlogHer's first conference, we had no idea that in 2010 BlogHer would be the go-to community for women who blog and use social media to get their word out. It was February 2005, and we just wanted to answer the question "Where are the women bloggers?" for good -- so we put our credit cards on the table, put our hands on our keyboards and got to work suggesting a conference that became BlogHer '05 for 300+ people.Today BlogHer is not just a conference, but a community that gave rise to a growing media company that reaches 20+ million people. We come together to write the award-winning BlogHer.com news service, to publish Fortune 500 advertising on more than 2,500 superb blogs, and, of course, for events and conferences. With a team of 44 amazing human beings, via offices in New York and Silicon Valley and a growing number of fantastic sponsors who believe in women who blog, BlogHer, Inc. helps women who blog get read, get speaking gigs, get press and marketing for their writing and, if a blogger who embraces our editorial standards is interested in a publisher, get paid. We've loved every minute of it. As always, we want to hear what you think -- and we'd like to thank you with an anniversary present: We're giving away five BlogHer '10 conference passes. Here's how to participate:Step 1: Write a post, comment or Tweet tagged #BlogHer5 on any one of the following topics. Whichever one you choose, it can be abut anything BlogHer, including conference, site and network. Here are your five ways to play: 5 words: Define BlogHer in five words 5 connections: You made through BlogHer 5 pictures: You took at a BlogHer event 5 issues: BlogHer should tackle in the next 5 years 5 opportunities: You’ve gotten because of blogging or BlogHerStep #2: You can leave a comment here with your #BlogHer5 thoughts, but if you choose to blog or tweet, please come back and leave a link to your thoughts in the comments here.  We’ll give 5 BlogHer ‘10 passes at random by February 15, pulling from all of the people who leave a comment here with their #BlogHer5 entry. The pass will be yours to keep or share. (Apologies, but we just cannot track the Twitterverse or BlogHerVerse accurately enough to give everyone a chance to compete fairly for a pass.). So let's get this party started: You've earned it. Together this community has played an important leadership role in demonstrating the sheer power of women using social media -- as writers, commentators, readers, consumers, change agents and entrepreneurs.We are just so proud to be part of this community. Here's to the next five years. :) Best, Lisa for Elisa, Jory and Lisa BlogHer Co-foundersLisa Stone BlogHer Co-founder, Surfette  BlogHer is non-partisan but our bloggers aren't! Follow our coverage of Politics & News....more

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Mary Daly, One of Our Feminist Foremothers, Has Died

Mary Daly is an important feminist foremother whether or not you knew of her, agreed with her, or read her books. Her work was like a powerful intellectual and spiritual snow-plow, taking the risks to clear the roads for others to travel. There are radical pioneers who risk everything the world will say about them or do to them in order to truly inhabit what they believe. They walk what they talk, even when the talking alone is an act of courage. Mary Daly was that kind of pioneer. She lived her truth. ...more

So wonderful to read about Mary Daly's life, even about her intellectual conflicts with ... more

Aging and Learning, but Unable to Defy Gravity

I am about to turn sixty on January 20th. I look in the mirror and just do not understand. To you out there, comfortably ensconced in your thirties, I have one thing to say. Your Day Will Come. The day will come, when, like me, you suddenly get that you have more years behind you than in front of you. Phrases such as "Age is irrelevant," or "You are only as old as you feel," are now cause for irony-laced snickers. Life is still sweet, and mostly just dandy. It's just different now. You'll see. ...more

I always look forward to your posts. And I do think it might have to do with your being an ... more

Is Sleep a Feminist Issue?

After recapping (to the best of my ability) feminism in the aughts, I am now focused on what I'd like to see happen in the new decade we are in. ...more

Whatever the exact stats are on the amount of sleep women get or don't get, we just plain ... more

What Color Is Your Labia?

January is "make over your life!" month. Pages and pages of self-improvement schemes are clogging the cloud with their vision for change.  Kate Gosselin's straw head makeover is inexplicably everywhere including on CBS's morning show (here on You Tube)....more

I hate to tell you guys...there already is a dye for pubic hair! I can't remember where I've ... more

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