Seeing My Son's Eyes Light Up With Chanukah Traditions

My four-year-old son gently placed our menorah in the front window last week. He climbed onto the window seat, centered its heavy silver arms squarely against the glass, and hopped back down. "Look Mommy, it's ready for candles! There's the Shamash!" On a menorah, the center candle is called the Shamash. It's the "helper" candle, the one that we use to light all of the other candles each night. In Max's preschool classroom, one child each week gets to be the Shamash, or the special helper. It's a privilege that all of the four-year-olds look forward to, and I loved watching Max have his turn to shine this year....more
How sweet!  This was a touching story about a family and their holiday traditions, which I think ...more

Today Is My Due Date, But It's Not My Story To Write

My son, these are your last few days on the inside....more

My Son and Steubenville

 When Max was just a few months old, I sat cross-legged on the floor with him in a circle of other mothers.  The facilitator for our "Mommy and Me" playgroup would throw a question out to the group, and we would each volley back an answer."What quality do you want to instill in your child?  What personality characteristic would you most like for your son to be known for?" she asked.One by one, the mothers answered.  "Athletic", "Good sense of humor", "Brave", "Smart", "Strong"....more

When Mommy Isn't a Good Listener

I was an epic failure of a mother today. And my kid was a pain in the butt. “Max, I need you to be a good listener in the bookstore. You can play in the playhouse, or at the train table. If you start to run around the store, that tells me you’re ready to leave.” I ended up grabbing him by the arm, somewhere between the monkey books and the robot toys. He was running through the maze of aisles. He wouldn’t walk to the bathroom. He wanted to wash his hands before and after he went potty, but he wanted to cover the faucet with his palm so that the water sprayed everywhere....more
@Laine Griffin Yes, such a tough challenge to slow down and look at our OWN behavior.  But it's ...more

On Christopher Dorner, and Straddling The Thin Blue Line

I read every sentence of Christopher Dorner's manifesto. Beginning to end. I read it, and I sat with it, and my stomach turned with anxiety for all of the men and women who had to fear him. I read it, and I said to myself....."Yep. Pretty much sums it up."...more
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The Birth Plan: Vaginas, Bagels, and Bon Jovi

The clock is ticking folks, and about a week ago I realized that at some point a few months from now, I will be required to birth Baby #2.Shit....more

To The Media Covering Newtown

Dear Members of the Media, By now you’ve probably heard the small wave of outrage that is condemning you for interviewing the children of Sandy Hook Elementary School. You already know that furious parents across the country feel that it’s inappropriate to shove a microphone in the face of a traumatized 8-year-old. But have you ever wondered why? It’s because WE WILL REMEMBER. I remember....more
Thank you for this. I am very sorry for the loss of your friend. When I was a neophyte ...more

How To Spot An Internet Troll

Ah, the Internet.  It’s the foundation for so many beautiful things.  Communities of mothers who learn from each other, a virtual treasure trove of recipes and craft ideas, and a phenomenal way to share updates with friends and family all across the globe.  It’s also how I met my husband, but that’s a story for another time....more

I Don't Need Your Advice About My Toddler's Sleep Issues

Can I tell you a secret? Other moms piss me off. So I’ve decided to turn my FaceBook freak-outs frustration into a handy, informative blog post. For all y’all who have some advice to give. Yes, this is a community. Yes, your feedback is welcome. Yes, I am a huge proponent of everyone learning from each other. With one small caveat. Before you speak, please say the following words to yourself: I AM NOT A PARENTING GENIUS. (Go ahead. Try it. I’ll wait.)...more
@SublimeDream But wouldnt you think that she HAS TRIED EVVERYTHING?  Just because you post ...more

The Golden Rules of Potty Training

It’s the afternoon of the sixth day of potty training, and I’m finally ready to talk about it.I’m declaring myself an expert.  Because I have a blog.  And I can make lists.  And that’s how the internet works. (Which by the way, I’m harnessing and making my bitch from now on….the Internet, y’all.  Because I’m feeling a little better after my temper tantrum last week).So here goes.The Golden Rules Of Potty Training (Week 1):...more
Did it work? Is he trained yet? My son is 18 months, and we are putting the potties out for him, ...more