Being A Middle-Aged Woman is Expensive

Plenty of personal finance matrices suggest that with age comes a somewhat lower overhead. You know the drill: The kids move away, the mortgage gets paid off, and as you comfortably settle into whatever your version of semi-retirement is, job-related expenses become obsolete as does the intense need to save. ...more
sunburntsaver Depending on who you ask, between 40 and 50. I am 47 and I hate that particular ... more

Being A Middle-Aged Woman is Expensive

Plenty of personal finance matrices suggest that with age comes a somewhat lower overhead. You know the drill: The kids move away, the mortgage gets paid off, and as you comfortably settle into whatever your version of semi-retirement is, job-related expenses become obsolete as does the intense need to save. ...more
HYakBack Lol. Totally agree on the car thing. more

Being A Middle-Aged Woman is Expensive

Plenty of personal finance matrices suggest that with age comes a somewhat lower overhead. You know the drill: The kids move away, the mortgage gets paid off, and as you comfortably settle into whatever your version of semi-retirement is, job-related expenses become obsolete as does the intense need to save. ...more
I could not stop laughing at this while agreeing in some points and not agreeing in others. The ... more

I Am Not Your Fat Friend

This is an open letter to people I have/do care about throughout my life who have either disregarded me, not seen my sexuality, or not seen my value and worth because of my weight. Some of these people I am still friends, even best friends, with but this is my truth. These stories are not personal attacks, but rather examples of how thin privilege operates on interpersonal levels between friends, lovers, and the people we interact with. I am not necessarily placing blame—I am telling part of my story....more
I have been on both sides on this issue and I can truly say that you make your own luck.  When I ... more

Has a Comment Ever Made You Want to Quit the Internet?

A few days later, I received a comment that tore me to shreds. This person accused me of writing regurgitated garbage just for the sake of luring traffic from search engines. "I bet you're not even Jewish." His evidence was that I knew nothing of Jewish culture, because I used the word "menorot" and everyone knows it's menorah. ...more
I write a blog that barely nobody reads and the first time I got a hateful comment I celebrated ... more

Hobby Lobby is Right

With the very recent Supreme Court ruling on the Hobby Lobby case has come an uproar, an outrage over the result.  But these folks are in an uproar in large part over misinformation.  All the outcry, Facebooks posts, and news stories are screaming loud and long that Hobby Lobby has refused to pay for any and all female contraception.  Untrue....more
Keep in mind that I don't believe I have ever worked for any company that has covered birth ... more

The 5 Stages of Grief After Finding People on Facebook

I made the mistake of searching for an old friend on Facebook the other day. We’ve all been there.  I mean, you spent four years with these people in high school… where are they now? I went to high school with this person, and that was about 18 years ago, so you gotta figure that since I haven’t heard from her in that long (and vice versa), we weren’t that close.  But her name popped in my head, and I was just wondering what had become of her!  I had some time to kill while dinner was cooking.  Nothing like avoiding doing something actually practical, right? To my amazement, I found her pretty quickly!  She was married with kids… pretty normal fare. But then I recognized one of her friends.  And then another.  I noticed that she was still friends with people from high school. As in she was still friends with almost everybody we knew in high school. ...more
Maybe it is that I am about 12 years older than you, but when I got into facebook, I did ... more

Why I Commit Time to My Small, Personal Blog

I started my blog, www.only-mama.com, around a year and a half ago with hopes of going viral and making tons of money on ad revenue. I read something somewhere that said that you should wait to put ads on your blog until you have a lot of regular visitors, so I gave myself a year to build an audience. I still don't have enough regular readers to warrant adding ads to my blog. ...more
There are days when I hope that my blog will go viral. And the rest of the time, I am hoping ... more

Unhappy Mother's Day: My Mom Was Abusive

At a time of year when most of my writer friends are lamenting over beautiful memories with their mom, I sit here with a heavy heart. My own mother and I have had a rocky relationship. There were times when I couldn’t stand to speak to her. She probably wasn’t real crazy about me at times either. My mother was abused as a child by her own mother, GrammaDearest. Severely. And my mother in turn was abusive to us....more
I could never begin to understand the pain you went through.  I have an awesome mother, and she ... more

Think Before You Post that Platitude Online

There's been something weighing on my mind that's been sitting there for a while. It has to do with people spouting well-meaning platitudes that unfortunately come across as being condescending, hurtful, ignorant or even just cruel. ...more
Wow, aren't you the rain of sunshine.  Let's get real for a minute. I am talking to you as I ... more