Redefining Bravery for Abuse: The Cinderella Story

This is not a post about Disney, or Cinderella, or the movie that I haven't seen. This is a post about a post, by a mom who wants to explain "What Cinderella Teaches Girls About Abuse." To paraphrase, she says that the movie teaches girls that the answer to all of life's problems is to be kind, even when that means sacrificing your very self....more
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What The Snow Queen Can Teach About Depression

I've been meaning to read this fairy tale for years, and I'm so glad I finally did. It's beautiful, and it's such a perfect illustration of everything it takes to overcome mental illness that I really have to share. (Pause: yes, this is the Hans Christian Andersen story they took as their inspiration for Frozen, but the two bear only a passing resemblance....more

I Am A Rock: My New Job In The Family

My Thirties Body Image

I have been thirty-years-old for almost exactly a month (October 12th) and my body image has taken a hit; I've started looking more closely at my face, and my skin, which has always been a point of pride for me. Turning 30 and seeing signs of that is not what has me upset, though. I'm upset, because I got on the scale, and I found out that I weigh too little....more
I am a disaster in the kitchen, so I understand this. It is not completely unusual for me to go ...more

Unstuck and Working: Anchors of Calm

In the past week, I have taught two HypnoBirthing classes. There's a switch in my head that flips, when I have agreed to help a family, and I take my meds, get in my car, and I... show up. Always. I've never missed a class. Business hasn't exactly been booming, but when I commit, I show....more

6 Tips To Find A Fab Babysitter Online

Last year, we found an amazing babysitter. Our schedules meshed; our kid loved her. We had a harder time making our schedules work together this fall, because she's a student and a mom, herself, but we finally worked it out! Everyone is thrilled that she's back. Walt has a special happy "I'm ready to play so hard" look in his eyes when she comes over. And I get time to write!...more

What Can't I Blog About?

To paraphrase The Bloggess, "I have no filter, but I do have boundaries." Every time something big happens, my fingers itch to type it up here. I got so used to sharing everything, here, when the biggest things that were happening were related to getting pregnant and being pregnant, that maybe I just think of this space as a place to hold all my emotional burdens. I get more support than trolling, so when I want to lighten that load, I come here. Except... ...more

Why Lullabies Calm Babies and Parents

While we were moving and closer to his first birthday, Walt had a really hard time getting to sleep, and I found myself singing a lot. I also found that I had no idea how much time had gone by, when I came out of that dark bedroom. It took me a little while to figure out why this feeling was really familiar, but I figured it out while finishing my HypnoBirthing paperwork--it's a lot like self hypnosis....more

The Proud Welfare Mom: The Basics

I've realized a few things about a series of posts I call the Proud Welfare Mom posts: one, I have had a blind spot that needs to be addressed, now that I can see what's back there, and two, I need to articulate what these posts are supposed to be for. ...more

But I AM a Mother

My family is waiting for our baby in the limbo known as Trying To Conceive. But I am a mother, already. I always knew that I would make a good mother, eventually. In the last ten days, however, I have discovered that “eventually” is now--pregnant or not pregnant, I am a mother....more
@standshadows I'm glad you like it. It's my entry for the BlogHer Ricki Lake contest. I hope ...more