Immortal Mortality

In my 28 years, my father has suffered from diabetes, kidney stones, a broken femur (and subsequent metal rod replacement), a massive heart attack, a mini stroke (called a TIA), and lymphoma. Some of these could have killed him, but he always seemed to accept it, fight it, beat it, in one fell swoop....more

Love, not Lust

When women fight for the right to wear revealing clothes without being harassed, people invariably say that men are visual and sexual creatures. That if a woman wants to wear low cut shirts, or short skirts, that's totally fine, but they should expect a certain amount of ogling, of men staring at their breasts, and are even, perhaps, inviting a certain amount of touching. A woman who chooses to wear revealing clothing is also choosing a certain level of harassment....more

A Dream Deferred

Three years ago, I entered the lottery to run the NYC Marathon on a whim. At the time, I didn't even really understand how long a marathon was. I just sort of woke up one day and decided that I wanted to run it. Luckily, I didn't get in. I say luckily because I was in no way, shape, or form capable of training enough to run 26.2 miles through the 5 boroughs of New York City in the six months I would have from getting in to D-Day. But I entered again the next year, for 2011. I was still not training like I should have been, but I didn't plan on getting in....more

My Sister is Homeless

I was hanging out with my sister the night before Thanksgiving at a bar down the street from my house when the man sitting next to us started up a conversation. He asked where we lived, and I told him but he inquired about my sister's residence. We looked at each other and sort of giggled nervously. And then she said it."I'm sort of homeless."The man was taken aback, probably in part because of how flippant we were about, and I'm sure partly because of the answer. The thing is, I guess we're just not used to it yet. ...more
Wishing you and your sister a beautiful holiday season. I hope 2013 is a year full of rebuilding ...more


A lot of people (honestly myself included sometimes) believe fighting against violence against women is a futile effort. After all, women are genetically weaker (and by that I mean on average, women have lower levels of testosterone, and thus less agression and strength), and don't those who wish to commit crimes always prey on the weak? As long as there are people who wish to do violence, there will be violence against women. And crime will never end....more


This may be the longest any feminist blog has gone without writing about everything that is wrong with Cosmpolitan magazine. I admit it that it's a (very) guilty pleasure, and I do read it fairly often. And as often as I appreciate the tips and stories in it, I get angry at some of the ridiculously outdated advice they continue to give (among so many other problems)......more

For Better or For Worse? Dangerous Idea

For a while now, I've been entirely comfortable with the idea of never getting married. Although I'm in a serious relationship with a man I just moved in with, if we never got married, I wouldn't be bothered. With the divorce rate 50% and rising, to me, marriage just seems sort of pointless. But if he wanted to, I would. Recently, though, I've decided to swear off marriage altogether. If my boyfriend really wanted to, we can talk about it, but I'd prefer to never make that sort of committment. To anything, or anyone, even the man I love....more

Date Rape

(In response to a question asked by MTV's The Challenge "Have questions for Johnny or Mark? Here's your chance to ask 'em....more

Marriage vs Committment

One thing I will never understand is women's obsession with marriage. Well that's not entirely true - I mean, I certainly think about my future wedding. But what I want most in my wedding, is the man I can spend the rest of my life with. The details are really irrelevant. ...more

Why Men Shouldn't Hate Feminists

I'll be the first to admit I used to be on a dating site. I'm not embarrassed by this at all. In my profile on this site, I was upfront about this blog, and that I considered myself a feminist.  Oddly enough, most guys I spoke to, asked what exactly I meant by "feminist." I told them as best I could, and they either didn't respond, or expressed relief that I wasn't some "crazy feminazi that's angry with the world" (maybe not verbatim, but pretty damn close).  ...more