Go to #BlogHer15 for Your Own Reasons

You’ve got your ticket. You’ve got transportation. You have a roommate. You’ve chosen shoes! You’re ready....more
Agreed! Love the group of women in the photo, just a slice of the sheer power of the conference. ...more

Let Me Teach You How to Read a Room When You're Speaking

There is no better feeling as a public speaker than getting the response you both expect and want from your audience. Are they laughing, smiling, nodding, taking notes? These are good things. But what happens if they’re frowning, moving in their seats, shaking their heads, leaving (or worse, sleeping)? Learning to detect changes in your audience will help you structure your content and hone your delivery. ...more
Shannon Wrzesinski Toastmasters is fantastic, Shannon. I love that they've been around so long.more

There Is No Room for Your 'Buts' About Pulling a Gun on Teens in Swimsuits in McKinney

I see you. You're on Twitter or Facebook calling yourself the voice of reason because everything isn't racial, Arnebya, stop making everything racial....more
Yes, yes, YES to every single word you said. And thank you for saying them.more

What's Happening in Baltimore Is About More Than Freddie Gray

I won't condone violence against police or peaceful protesters. I can't....more
Well written, but I would have liked to have seen more finger pointing. The problem is ...more

Why I Was So Disappointed With The Ending of 'Serial'

I like things neat. I like things to have clean conclusions. The ending doesn't have to be positive or even what I want as an ending, but I do prefer there not to be any lingering questions. After listening to the last episode of season one of the Serial podcast, though, lingering questions may be all I'll ever have. ...more
I love radio and I used to listen CBS radio Mystery theater when I was growing up in the 1970's. ...more

How to Find Your Authentic Voice

When I was in elementary school, I declared that I'd be a writer. By high school, though, I was sure I'd go to law school. That too, changed over the years. In college, I had a professor ask me to consider switching my major to English because she enjoyed my writing so much; it would be a "waste of time" to pursue anything else. I wondered if she was high. (To be clear, I hadn't yet declared a major, so, perhaps I was high. No, really. Maybe I was. It was the late '90s and I don't need your judgment. Great, now I'm off track.) ...more
Love your post! I can so relate. Thank you for sharing. I couldn't agree more. Especially, the ...more

Banish Your Family And Prepare Yourself Because The Purple One Is On SNL This Weekend

I have instructed my family to get all their requests in on Saturday before 11:28 p.m. because by 11:30 I’ll be in a trance. I need those two minutes to mentally prepare for the beginning of a Saturday Night Live that won’t soon be forgotten, an SNL that will include (deep, meditating breath) Prince. Did that register in your mind? If so, did you flap your hands before fanning your face trying to get your blood pressure under control? ...more
NikkiG Listen to me, NIkkiG -- there is not one thing in that show outside of Prince that you ...more

On Refusing to Allow Viola Davis' Talent To Be Limited By Racial Commentary

No matter our professional and personal and societal accomplishments as black women, we will be seen as less than. No matter the strides we make beyond being maids, we will be seen as less than. We will be qualified with “for a black woman.” That’s a beautiful painting for a black woman. She’s an incredible dancer for a black woman. Image: © Lisa O'Connor/ZUMAPRESS.com ...more
This is a powerful post! I loved it! I agree that it is absolutely insane that people can only ...more

What's In a (Starbucks) Name?

Amoeba. Armenia. Ambibia. Ar-na-by...what's your name, baby? It's rare for someone to say my name correctly on the first try. It happens, but it's rare. I've been called all of those above and a few others that make less sense. And by less sense I mean less sense of a seemingly normal person who thought Amoeba could be correct. ...more
I get misspellings all the time too. I'm most commonly named Brittany or Brenda. Or an extra ...more

The Other Side of the Weight Spectrum: Being Too Thin

This is not a pity party. I am relatively healthy, of sound mind (albeit occasionally debatable). I love myself, I do. I practice self worth in front of my girls, never complain about my [under]weight. I am happy and free and in love with my body in front of them. Oh, I can give the performance you've never imagined. But inside my head? Ugly. Skinny. Tittyless. Meatless. You're always cold because you don't have enough meat on your bones. No one wants you. Your husband is pretending. Your girls are destined to follow the skinny path. Make them some potatoes. ...more
Thank you greatly for sharing this incredibly important truth and experience, it is shared by ...more