Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.-- Anne Roiphe

It's the anniversary of my father's death (it's been 12yrs). The sting of how it impacted my family and the  question of what if he was still alive still linger..This year I realized this day is just a reminder of my family's demise.Secondary losses that's what they are called.These are losses that have occurred as a result of the death.On some level I knew my family wouldn't survive however  the amount of damage which followed was catastrophic....more

Prayer the enemies kryptonite..

I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me.He freed me from all my fears.Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy;no shadow of shame will darken their faces.In my desperation I prayed, and the ...more

a day in the life with PTSD

January 2006 I was in a car accident that I thought was going to take my life.I was coming home from work during a blizzard,traveling on a parkway which was not plowed.I skidded and crashed into the lightpost on the side of the parkway.The lightpost fell onto to parkway.I thought of my family & felt compassion knowing they had to deal with yet another death as well as another family member dying in a car crash....more

Loving your neighbor..


sometimes its not the enemy

We are told to trust our gut,follow your instinct but what happens when a persons instinct is thrown off kilter by the significant trauma they have been through.Those of us who have decided to follow gods path and not the worlds are given the holy spirit to help guide us....more

There is beauty in death from transformation.

photo from "If you bring forth what is inside you what is inside you will save you,if you do not bring forth what is inside you,what is inside you will destroy you"--Gospel according to Thomas.....more

confidence in christ

You are altogether beautiful my love there is no flawin you--song of Solomon 4:7 Society bombards women with images of what the ideal woman is supposed to look like. This version of the ideal woman is unattainable because it does not exist. These images give women an unrealistic version of what true beauty is. Most often they are airbrushed or photo shopped. I am not nor have I ever been close to society's version of beauty. I was a tomboy growing up. I wore flannels & corduroys and was often mistaken for a boy. ...more