How to Have Openness in a Foster Adoption

Question: Can you talk about open adoption for foster kids who have been abused? We are about to adopt Daughter through foster care and there has been severe and repeated abuse. Birth Dad was the abuser and is in jail for it, and we’re not sure how to proceed with Birth Mom ....more

Boundaries: Our Adoption Agency Warns About Extortion

Question: My son came to me 9 months ago from a Caribbean island. He’s now 3...more

Tasty Tidbits: Farmers on Farming

I had the pleasure of dining last week with a half-dozen women who farm Colorado land. Over a delicious meal to which they certainly contributed, I got to find Common Ground with these farmers. Less than 2% of our population provides food for 100% of our population ....more

Does Open Adoption Work?

My last post touched on the debate spurred by publicity for Amy Seek’s new memoir, God and Jetfire: Confessions of a Birth Mother. I started with a courtroom scene but decided to go this route instead. (You don’t have to have read that book to get this post.) Rorschach Test I see the debate about … Continue reading Does Open Adoption Work? ...more

Amy Seek’s God and Jetfire: Open Adoption on Trial

Note: Though tempting, please do not comment on the headline only without reading the full post. Recent publicity for Amy Seek’s new memoir, God and Jetfire: Confessions of a Birth Mother seems to have put open adoption on trial. Amy Seek, a landscape architect and writer living in London, gives readers an account of her … Continue reading Amy Seek’s God and Jetfire: Open Adoption on Trial → The post Amy Seek’s God and Jetfire: Open Adoption on Trial appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

Bloom Where You’re Planted

This is a cucumber plant in our yard. I did not put it there. I planted cucumbers about 75 feet away in a carefully tended garden ....more

Cover Story: Biology Matters in Embryo Adoption

My article is the cover story for the current issue of the magazine Pathway2Family, which aims to apply what we now know about infant adoption to the realm of embryo adoption. Biology Matters, And That’s Why Openness Does, Too Below is an excerpt from the Summer/Fall 2015 issue of Pathway 2 Family. *** Why not … Continue reading Cover Story: Biology Matters in Embryo Adoption → The post Cover Story: Biology Matters in Embryo Adoption appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

When the Birth Dad Says He’s Not

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Winner Winner Chicken Dinner (and other stuff)

1. My family staycationed in nearby Colorado Springs. Daughter and I got tattoos (henna), I rode the zipline across the Royal Gorge (zomg), and we drove to the top of Pikes Peak ....more