Culture for the Poor

Culture for the poor “Culture for the poor must never be poor culture.  We must have the best instruments for the poorest children, the best teachers for the poorest children and the best buildings for the poorest children.”  Master José Antonio Abreu founder of El Sistema in Venezuela....more

Paying It Backwards

We often hear the phrase pay it forward. You do something good for someone, usually a stranger, as part of a chain of positive action. You pay forward because you often can’t pay back the particular person who did you a good deed. I recently have had an experience which allowed me to pay it backwards. I was able to return a favor to a friend who was very good to me when I was in college. She took me in when I had nowhere to go. She gave me food when I was hungry....more

What an incredible task of love to have to take care of someone with such a debilitating and ...more

My Friend but Not My Girl -- Intergenerational Friendships

I’ve been thinking about intergenerational friendships in recent weeks, specifically about the nature of such friendships. Over the past three months, I have learned that despite what I thought was a seamless closeness with friends several years my junior, there were in fact boundaries to the depth of our friendships on their part. I am their friend -- yes -- but I am not now, nor will I ever be “their girl.” Perhaps this is as it should be, but it is a bit dismaying nonetheless. ...more

I don't know that I have any definitive things to say on this topic except that I've finally ...more

What Comes Around Goes Around

As I’ve accumulated experience and some wisdom garnered through living life, one of the things that has happened is that I have learned that many clichés are based in truth. A cliché that has shown itself to be true a lot in the fifth decade of my life is that what goes around comes around. ...more

Gift Resolution: Start Working Now on These Great Gift Ideas

Have you had Christmases where you found yourself low on time, money or inspiration when giving holiday gifts to loved ones. At this point in my life, I’ve given my children and other family members all sorts of gifts. While all of them were appreciated, not all of them were meaningful. Next year, I want to do something different. ...more
You are so raight.  I have somehow become the family historian and everyone gives me their old ...more

Do You Attend Funerals?

Growing up, I attended all funerals held at the Baptist church that I grew up in.  As a result, I am comfortable attending funeral services. I have friends who do not attend funerals.  One friend swears that the only funeral she will attend will be her own, and she’ll skip that one by leaving clear instructions that she does not want a service. In midlife, the occasions to attend funerals accelerate.  ...more
No I don't if I do not know the person. I went to one where the family members all got up and ...more

Queen of Comedy Moms Mabley: Cougar on Stage, Lion in Life

The recent appearance of Terry McMillan and her ex Jonathan on the Oprah Show, as well as the break-up of the marriage of Courteney Cox and David Arquette, got me remembering an original "cougar" -- at least in her comedy routine: Jackie “Moms” Mabley (1894-1975). ...more
I remember watching Moms and loving her dearly. We are in desperate need of women like her in ...more

Stop Looking Back

A few years ago I started having dreams that were essentially flashbacks of some negative experiences I’d had in my life with my first husband (deceased) and another guy I’d planned to marry.  These dreams caused me daytime grief, regret and chagrin. ...more

for taking the time to leave a comment. I am glad you learned the lessons sooner and not ...more

I’ll Have a “Singapore Sling” and Other Drinks from Back in the Day

Kevin Sbraga, the winner of Top Chef, D.C.,  prepared a Singapore Sling re-imagined for 2010 as the dessert of his winning menu.  I hadn’t heard the name Singapore Sling in ages.  That got me thinking of popular drinks from back in my girlish days.  (I don’t drink, so I can’t speak with personal knowledge about how these drinks tasted.  My husband, who does drink and whose father was a bartender, helped me brainstorm a list.) ...more

We Boone's Senior year of high school and then beer in college. But I found that in real life ...more

How Long Will You Work?

How long will you work?  When will you retire?  Will you ever retire?  For many of us, whether and how long we work will be determined by finances.  For others of us, working beyond retirement is something we choose because we find work fulfilling. People work far beyond retirement age – some for their entire lives – for many reasons.   ...more

I like that. I also "hear" what you said about your grandfather living to the ripe, old age of ...more