Adoptive Families Who Need Support Are Finally Getting a Voice

This month the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute released a 98-page research study titled “Keeping the Promise: The Critical Need for Post-Adoption Services to Enable Children and Families to Succeed.” This report compiles the most exhaustive collection of post-adoption service information to date. Its thrust is to convince the adoption community to move its focus from being centered mostly around creating families through adoption, to balancing this with supporting these children and families after placements are made. ...more
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Was Humanitarian Parole the Best Thing for Haitian Orphans?

In seven months, the news of the January 12th earthquake in Haiti has slowed to a trickle. Fundraising has taken a back seat to more current news. Talk of orphans and amputees are buried well behind the headlines. The mass of adoption requests has returned to a normal level. Yet, there is still a Haiti. There are still orphans. There are now court dates and adoption finalizations occurring. Unfortunately, there are also around a dozen Haitian children in the United States who do not have a home, and their future continues to be uncertain. ...more

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Should We Adopt From Haiti? Should We Not? Yes.

In the weeks since the January 12th earthquake that rocked the island of Haiti, there has been a tremendous increase in adoption inquiries.  As the rest of the world watches, we cannot help but hurt and hope and desperately seek ways to help.  Pictures of orphans and news stories of destruction cause us all to want to grab a passport and come home with as many children possible.It is normal.Yet, it is not practical.  At this point in time, it is also not best.  ...more

The situation in Haiti is not new.  Evrytime a disaster occurs we want to help, we need ...more

Parenting Traumatized Children: Sometimes We Can Make It Worse

First and foremost, let me get something out of the way - PARENTING TRAUMATIZED CHILDREN IS PROBABLY ONE OF THE MOST DIFFICULT THINGS ANY HUMAN CAN BE REQUIRED TO DO - EVER. It is hard. It is hard. It is hard, and every single day you will discover that it is quite HARD!...more

It's just not possible to practice how you'll FEEL, and you could never put it into words and ...more

Raising Kids With Trauma Bonds

Trauma bonds. Mmmmm. It's a phrase which warms the cockles of some of our hearts. *cough* Children who come from traumatic histories share a bond ... a trauma bond. For children who have lived together during that trauma, it can be even more pronounced. What does this mean - this "trauma bond" thing? ...more

No she does not want our help. She lives with her other mother who spoils her with the ...more

Presidential Debate Tango

You throw an old jab in! You throw an old jab out! You throw an old jab in! And you screw his time about!   McCain was prepped well for last night's debate - really well.  He had a definite strategy.  It went something like this: ...more