Flipped the switch

 Fourteen years seems like long enough to figure someone out right? Especially if you live with the person. More so if the person is of your own flesh and blood. At the risk of sounding like a certain Presidential candidate....WRONG.WRONG.WRONG.My baby is 14. As of yesterday at 8:45pm. Happy birthday Lea Jane. I love you forever and then forever again....more

"In my opinion..."

When someone starts a convo by saying, "In my opinion...” I usually say, in my head, "Did I ask for your opinion?"; but I'm a bitch so there is that.I love opinions. Mostly my own but I do like to hear what other people think. Well, the people I like, which is a low number because I don't really like people. I sound lovely don't I?...more

IMHO (not so humble)

September blogging topic is OPINION. It called to me and I answered. My husband calls me opinionated. He doesn't say it like a compliment. Usually it's as a complaint. Boo hoo. Not. I find myself reminding him that in our 24 years together I have barely changed my stance on any number of issues and he has just become more and more narrow minded. Oddly, this is not always met with a showering of kisses. ...more

What I know for sure...

When I first became a SAHM, Oprah had a daytime talk show. I watched it every day. A few years into her reign as the daytime Goddess, she started ending her shows with a few questions to her guests. One question was, "what do you know for sure?"Fast forward to my first time hosting Thanksgiving. I set my table with my china and crystal and hand crafted place cards. Additionally I had a side table set up with small papers, pens and a fishbowl. I asked my guests to write a little something on the paper.First: What are you thankful for?...more

white, mom, wife, sister: seeking

These are complicated times. The issues facing our world are heavy. Every group is pitted against every other group and then sub-groups are formed to further the divisiveness. I am in many groups and at the same time I am struggling to identify with any group. Everybody wants to belong somewhere. ...more

The Blood Patch

Happy 15th birthday to my firstborn daughter, Grace Katherine. When I was in labor with Grace, I got an epidural. I live with the crippling pain of Rheumatoid Arthritis every day and have for 35+ years, but childbirth just about killed me. I was a mere 3 centimeters dilated when I got my epidural. Prior to it I was in mortal agony.  So the anesthesiologist came in and between contractions he gave me the epidural. Instant relief. ...more

Manipulation 101


The light, the flame, the love.

 I was in the therapist's office. Talking about my failures. Too numerous to mention here. She, in all of her wisdom, addressed my current nagging issue. I talked about how I am trying to teach my children that the "spotlight" must be shared and just because one child is shining, the other child is not dull.The problem is, somehow (?), my girls have turned the "spotlight" into a competition that has parental love, as the grand prize. My therapist used the most illustrative of metaphors to help me and I want to share it here....more

Parenting and what it is not

Today I will write about my relationship with my parents, and how it changed over the years. ...more

Is Your Teen Obsessed With Her Screen?

I have 2 teenaged daughters. They both have laptops and iPhones. I supervise them. For instance, the only iTunes account is mine, so if they buy a song, I know about it. I know their passwords as well. Despite all of that, sometimes shit happens. ...more
Yes, and I was shocked when I started seeing the number of texts each month on the phone bill ...more