How to Handle Difficult People

Learning how to handle difficult people often involves closely examining yourself and your own behavior and then learning from those you find ’difficult’. They may turn out to be your unwitting teachers, enable you to change yourself for the better and to better understand them.Learn more about this in the Article section of this website on Tuesday. Or, better yet, subscribe to my newsletter (on the left sidebar) to have one sent to you monthly....more

Don’t Be Tripped Up by “What’s Next?”

Most of us have an inner voice that’s always asking, “What next?” It seems that it’s never satisfied and is always pushing us forward. We can feel pressured by this voice to always do more.This human condition causes us to move out of present time and into the presumed future. In other words, we get ahead of ourselves, trying to see what we need to do next. When we have a dream, we may have a feeling that we have to create something BIG RIGHT NOW....more

Experience Grace Under Pressure

In these tough times we’re challenged to move past the obstacles and live in grace. My friends showed us how:...more

Necessary Darkness

This is a time of unlimited growth and transition, or a time of infinite pain. The choice is yours.Darkness is a necessary part of life. Without it there would be no contrast showing us the light. Forest fires kill trees, that allow shrubs to grow. Shrubs feed wildlife. The forest doesn’t complain. It just continues on, without feeling sorry for itself, and grows. New plants evolve during this cycle. Some are fire retardant. Animals eat the insects that once grew in the trees that are now gone. It all works....more

Happiness Tips for Thanksgiving

I interviewed CJ Scarlet on my radio show today ( and she shared timely information about how to be happy in general, and especially on Thanksgiving. CJ gave 3 steps to happiness and 8 principles to help us be happy and successful. Here’s a summary of the three steps:1. Stop wallowing in drama.2. Look around and see that everyone wants happiness.3. Help others to be happy....more

Are some people evil?

A client asked a question lately that is very relevant to most of us:I was wondering if people know when they are hurting others or manipulating them? I notice that some people feel justified and right about manipulating and taking advantage of others. Are they aware of what they are doing? Are people like that – or do they have no idea that they are doing crazy stuff?...more

Giving love with no strings attached

We are innately loving beings. When we are in touch with ourselves, and even if not, who we are radiates through our hearts to others. When we love, the flow can be a blessing and healing. However, don’t expect others to be able to have all of what you offer.The love you are and beam outward will flow and be there for others. It is a blessing that may or may not be received, depending upon who can have it. Others have their own issues and agendas. They may not need or want your love right now. It is not a reflection on you or the quality of your love....more

Self Actualization Insights


What’s Backing You Up?

 My husband and I were calling a bank officer yesterday via conference mode and got her assistant. The assistant said she’d give the message to the officer with our phone number. My husband said, “Thanks. Goodbye.” The assistant hung up. No “goodbye” or closure. Nothing. Just click....more

Pat Yourself on the Back

 Life is all about lessons. A lot of them. We’re running an obstacle course, folks, and there are times when it’s not fun. There are times when we’re running along feeling the wind in our face, hurtling over those obstacles and climbing ladders with ease. Then there are days when the rain pours while we’re trudging up a muddy mountain. It’s cold, it’s windy… yuk! We’ve seen a lot of those rainy days and a lot of mud lately. That’s life....more