The Clay vs The Seed

The ClayA lump of clay has the potential to do or be almost anything, but until the intent, creativity, and pressure of a higher being is applied, it just sits there. Generally it quite willingly gives to that pressure and molds to the shapes desired, but if left to its own devices, it will just sit on the table, inert, with no ideas or motivation or momentum of its own. With the steady and goal-oriented guidance of more intelligent hands, it can be shaped into a thing of beauty and purpose.The Seed...more

Is It Still Okay to Blog About My Kids?

As my kids have grown out of infancy, I've thought more and more about where the boundaries are around what I share on my blog and on other forms of social media. I think about it quite a lot, and I've wanted to write about it many times, but I have backed off every time in fear of being too judgmental of other parents. ...more
When I write something about my kids, I ask them if it is okay to post a particular story. I ...more

Spoons, Splines, Executive Function

I’ve been wanting to write a blog post about executive function for several weeks. The funny thing is, compiling the information and the writing such a post requires significant executive functioning effort, and I haven’t been able to muster it. Fitting!Executive function (EF) is hard to explain in a simple way because it does so many things. Some call it the command center of the brain – it is responsible for things like decision making, planning, problem solving, attention, working memory, verbal reasoning, transitioning, time management, and more....more

A Shifting Sensory World

Everyone has senses. And most people have sensory issues of some kind, to some degree. Here is your mini primer on sensory processing: you already know about sight, hearing, taste, smell, and touch. But we have many more senses than those, including our senses of pain, temperature, vibration, balance (sometimes called vestibular sense), and proprioception – which includes the ability to sense your own movements, the position of your body parts, the sort of sense of being in your body that many people take for granted....more

Self Care During Depression or Burnout

How can you maintain good self care practices when you are going through depression and/or burnout? Someone asked me this question, and it’s a question that I am in the process of trying to answer for myself....more
EISFORERIN, this is deeply wise. As a professional Life Coach, I guide my clients to understand ...more

Know Thyself: My Top Ten Self Care Acts

It’s been hard to get started on a second post about self care, partly because I’ve felt like a bit of a fraud thinking about how to write about it when I have not been practicing good self care since the month began. I’ve been pushing too hard and flaming out almost daily. I am not even sure why.Last week my focus was on self-acceptance, and how that has to be step one toward proper self care. Acknowledging that self-acceptance is a long process, however, we can’t get stuck on trying to “achieve” that before beginning to care for ourselves well....more

Self Care is a Radical Act

Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. – Audre LordeI came across the above quote from activist and poet Audre Lorde and felt inspired to write on the theme of self care for the month of June. Interestingly, when I searched Pinterest for the quote, hoping to find it in some already-memed form that I could instantly share, I found a lot of people had chopped off the last phrase about political warfare. Why?...more

Unschooling: Screen Time

A lot of unschooling families I know (or read about), and a lot of families whose kids attend democratic schools, do not limit screen time for children. We’re one of them. We are a pro-screen family....more

Can Unschooled Children Go to College?

One of the reader questions submitted was: “Do you worry your kids will want to go to college and wonder why they can’t?” I am going to unpack this question a little bit, because to me it carries some common misconceptions about unschooling. For starters, “unschooling” is admittedly not a great name for what we do. It’s just kind of the best name we have, and I’ve heard other unschoolers bemoan this reality. ...more
I have been homeschooling (though not fully unschooling) for the past 5 years. I have definitely ...more

Three Strokes to One: Social Situations

One of the metaphors that my diagnosing psychologist used to illustrate the exhaustion of being autistic in an allistic (that is, non-autistic) world is about paddling down a river. All of the neurotypical people are sitting in their kayaks paddling along with the current, but the autistic person is paddling through a current that runs in the other direction. For every one stroke the other kayakers paddle, the autistic kayaker has to paddle three strokes just to keep up....more