50 Shades of Grinch

There is a lot of Christmas cheer happening all around, but right now I’m trying to survive. I might not be the Grinch, but I am not spreading great joy either, maybe I need to figure out where I fall on the Grinch...more

When Your Child Is Aware of Their Disability and They Don’t Like It

She fell again. She falls often. She falls down and gets back up ....more

Thankfulness: The Special Needs Way

When my daughter was born with Down syndrome, I never imagined that someday I would be thankful for her diagnosis. At the time of her birth, our future seemed bleak and limited. But disability was so different from what I thought it would be, and years later, there is so much I am thankful for ....more

When adoption starts with anger, resentment, and heartache

Editor’s note: When we first adopted our daughter from Ukraine, our family stumbled as we journeyed through the transition period. I’d never felt like a failure more than I did trying to find our new normal. And I felt so alone ....more

Confessions of a Parent: I Wish I Had a Roadmap

Parenting would be a lot easier if it came with a map, “You start here, you end up here, and this is how you get there.” Simple. Logical. Organized ....more

She Doesn’t Want Me To Love Her Back

She walks to me and covers my mouth, a clear sign I’m not supposed to speak to her. “Mom. I luh you.” She waits a second, then she puts down her hand ....more

The last time

I walk across the brown hallway. The yellowish dim lights of the orphanage cast shades as I make my way through the door. On my hip, my new daughter rests awkwardly, we haven’t figured out how we fit together yet ....more

What adoption costs

Looking at the fees and expenses associated with adoption can be overwhelming. How can anyone afford to adopt? The dollar sign is big, but make no mistake, that is not what adoption costs ....more

Special Needs Parents are Hard to Get Along With

Perhaps some of us special needs parents have snapped, yelled, spit, or barked at friends or family, leaving them utterly confused about our behavior. Who can blame them for thinking, “Well that’s the last time I talk to her!” “What’s wrong with him?” “Is his disability sarcasm? He is so rude!” “Every time I talk to her I’m walking on eggshells!” Someone googled, “Why are special needs parents hard to get along with.” And well, I don’t blame them for feeling that way…sometimes ....more

I Suffer From Depraved Indifference, and So Do You

I suffer form depraved indifference, and so do you. It is not that we don’t care, we care. But we go to bed and we sleep just fine ....more