For Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Remember That Love Doesn't Hurt

The first time someone I (thought I) loved slapped me, I was stunned into silence. I was 16, he was 24, and while there were so many things wrong with our pairing, the physical and emotional abuse were the worst. How does a 16-year-old respond to a hard slap across the cheek in response to saying something he would later say made him feel like "less of a man", when he is bigger and is much stronger? My ears ringing, I paused, completely silenced and stunned that he would strike out at me rather than discuss whatever I said that upset him. It seemed excessive, and I found myself (oddly) doing more to make sense of it than process it as wrong....more
Thank you for this post!more

Consenting to Sexual Activity is Now the Law in California

In a groundbreaking legislative move, California governor Jerry Brown signed into law a bill that affirms the necessity of consent when it comes to engaging in sexual activity. According to this new bill, signed on September 28, 2014, any college that receives state funding will have to abide by this new standard for consent-- a verbal yes or non-verbal gesture of consent must be given before sexual activity ensues....more
Is the law in new zealand. My partner successfully gained a conviction of rape for an older ...more

Want to Kick Your Kegels Into High Gear? The "Juve" May Be the Answer

By now, I hope that you know where your vagina is and how it works, or at least its most basic functions. I also hope that you have heard of the exercises that you can do to strengthen the powerful effect your vagina has on the world-- Kegels....more
I'd definitely be interested! I've looking into ways to strengthen your pelvic floor.more

Remembering Four Little Girls, Victims of the 1963 Birmingham Bombing

On September 15, 1963, the 16th Street Baptist Church was destroyed by a horrific act of racial terrorism. Four young ladies, Addie Mae Collins, Cynthia Wesley, Carole Robertson and Denise McNair, died immediately, and 22 others were injured in the explosion caused by a bomb that had been planted on the church steps near the basement entrance....more

The Silencing of Sexual Liberation

We should consider ourselves fortunate that we live in a time when more people are openly discussing issues related to sex, sexuality, sexual freedom, and the promise of sexual acceptance for all, by all.  There was a time when any such discussion was considered "indecent", and certain behaviors were punishable by arrest and imprisonment. This current level of openness in discourse also allows for candid, often difficult discussions of sexual harassment and assault, though we cannot exactly say that has lead to more arrests and imprisonment for offenders....more
Great post! I wish I could be that articulate when people start victim blaming and bashing ...more

Give It to Me... HARDER!!!

Are you vocal in bed? Do you make your pleasure known by grunts, groans, moans, screams, or other means?...more
^^^ hahahaha! ;)more

I Don't "Owe" You Sex

Sex is not something that is “owed” to you, or anyone for that matter. Sex should be enthusiastically offered and exchanged in a mutually consenting manner; if people are reluctant or unwilling, that should be the end of it, at least at that point in time. Unfortunately, the idea that some people may owe other people sex—or any kind of attention—is pervasive and rather dangerous. ...more
Great post.Teaching our teens that they never owe someone sex is important. In fact, 63% of ...more

National Orgasm Day: Come One, Come All!

It's time to celebrate!!July 31 is National Orgasm Day!!Maybe.For several years now, there has been a bit of mostly online-based lore about celebrating orgasms on July 31. There was a website about it at some point, I'm sure, and we know that is all it takes these days to make a holiday real, right? The success of "Steak And Blowjob Day" is credited to the perpetuation of lore via online memes and yes, an official website. Let's just roll with it. ...more
Damn. I missed it. That figures.more

Deep-Throating 101: 3 Ways to Improve Your Gag Reflex

You're a woman who enjoys performing oral sex on your male lovers. Either you've been doing it for years or you only recently came to love it, but it's your thing. Unfortunately, you've been struggling with going deeper; the idea of deep-throating makes you gag (literally!) and you want to take your skills to the next level. I have a few tips that just might help you out. (Note: I am considerate of people who have battled with eating disorders and for whom gagging/purging has been an issue....more
_chunk_ I could see that. If given the option, I would have tried number 3 as well. I've done #2more

The Erasure of Black Womanhood: Why Anthony Cumia's Twitter Rant is About More Than Race

On Wednesday, July 2, 2014, "Opie and Anthony" radio host Anthony Cumia went on a disgusting rant that lasted several tweets in which he used abhorrent language to describe an interaction he had with a Black woman in Times Square, New York City. He used words and phrases like “whore b*tch,” “c*nt,” “c*ntrag,” and “animal pig fuck c*nt b*tch,” all to describe a woman he claims attacked him. He claimed she attacked him because he was innocently taking pictures of a construction site at 3 a.m. ...more
thetrudz I see... the almost completely removed onlookers. Those are esp difficult to reason ...more