Shame: I Have a "Butch" Fiancée and I Still Pointed a Student to the Wrong Bathroom

Today I felt more shame than I have ever felt before in my life. I felt like a failure to my lesbian and educator identities....more
Thanks for your reply. I felt that you were trying to be respectful and ultimately connected ...more

Meet Max

Monday, November 4, 2013 Who is your favourite character of all time? This is Max the Dog. He's made quite  few appearances on my blog. He likes to ruminate about life....more
Max is a cutie!more


I just finished partaking in OctPoWriMo and I'm BEAT. Sooo it only seems natural to join in on NaBloPoMo too. o_O Friday, November 1, 2013 If you found one million dollars in the morning and had to spend it by nightfall, what would you do with the money? While I could be clichéd and pretend that I'd go crazy with this prompt, the reality is simple: it'd be hard to spend this money by nightfall. A million dollars sounds like a lot, but, in today's world, it's not. I could use it to:...more

How can you admit you can't help your best friend?

I've been struggling with writing about this topic since right before I left for BlogHer'13. I've wanted to post about this on my own blog, but it almost feels too embarassing to admit. I thought about tweeting or Facebooking on the topic, but I was afraid of the judgement and embarassment that would make me feel....more
I have a 13-year-old greyhound. He has several health problems--failing back legs and arthritis ...more

It is NOT okay.

I could go off on a tangent about how much the Oscars sucked this year, how Seth MacFarlane is a disgusting pig, or how stupid it was this year, but instead I'll focus on what is sure to be the main topic in feminist (and news) sites all over in the next few hours:...more

Coming Out: Today's Generation

A few weeks ago, while my #23til23 challenge was in full swing, I mentioned how I had written a letter to my extended family, coming out as both a lesbian and a blogger. I never actually finished editing the letter, and I never actually sent it, but the letter has been lurking in the back of my mind (and notebook), waiting to be sent....more

#23til23: an introduction

It's time to go home, wherever that is.

I'm a full-time grad student lucky enough to have my own studio apartment, courtesy of my University job. I decided that some time at home with my family was needed, and verbally committed to spending the week of Christmas at my mom & dad's house. Normally, this would be stressful. (Trust me, it has been at times.) However, I was looking forward to homecooking, family time, and cuddling with my dog, a lot....more

Jeepers Creepers

A few weeks ago I fell victim to consumerism and bought an Elf on the Shelf, or, as I lovingly refer to it, "a creepy elf." The only reason I bought one was because I had a coupon code for it. That, and I really enjoyed looking at all the messed up things being done to elves on could be that f*ed up, riiiight?I named my elf Jeepers, as in Jeepers Creepers. He's a creepy little mofo.One of his first acts of elfishness in my house? Christmas-ifying the dog....more