An Adult Child Abuse Survivor's Guide to the Holidays

This is a post from 'State of Grace',  a blog I maintained from 2004 to 2009. I wrote frequently and candidly about my perspectives and experiences as a survivor of child sexual, physical and psychological abuse and neglect.  This was a piece with a list of how I manage the profound difficulties of celebrating holidays with abusive members of my family.  For Christmas, 2013, I  humbly present this to the BlogHer readership, most espcially for my sister and brother abuse survivors and their allies.(Edited from original post, November 26, 2009)...more
Great list. I feel this anxiety every single time I walk through the door of my mom's house. The ...more

Older Women and Sex Tourism

As I was surfing the blogosphere for the elder beat, I came across this Reuters report: Older white women join Kenya's sex tourists By Jeremy Clarke MOMBASA, Kenya, Nov 26 (Reuters) - Bethan, 56, lives in southern England on the same street as best friend Allie, 64. They are on their first holiday to Kenya, a country they say is "just full of big young boys who like us older girls". ...more

I question the value to an older woman who needs to find someone in a vulnerable position to get ...more

Empathy for our Elders - "Aging Sensitivity Training" and a return to the Multigenerational Household.

Last month, in the entertaining blog, Linda's Backroads Musings, Blogger Linda, a "rural mail carrier" on the Kansas prairies, wrote an entry about an NPR story on aging: ...more

Yup - exactly! IT was a bill of goods that was sold to those retuning G-I's. It was the ...more

Running "with body and mind." - The Magic and Drama of the New York City Marathon

I have just returned from my third trip to the New York City Marathon. I am passionately in love with this event, the biggest marathon anywhere. And, in the most badass city on the planet. ...more

It's never a problem to link to yourself on my posts! I'm grateful you handed out oranges and I ...more

Blogging the Southern California Wildfires

The infernos engulfing thousands of acres in rural and residential Southern California are being amply covered by bloggers in and around the region. Here is a sampling of citizen journalists/live bloggers documenting and photographing the disaster: ...more

Like you, I used to take our disasters in stride (after all, that risk is the price we pay for ...more

Tales from the Front Lines of Nursing

My mission as one of the Contributing Editors for the all-encompassing topic of 'Life' is to seek narratives from everyday living as captured in the wealth of women's blogs. I am particularly intrigued with stories from the kaleidoscope of our working lives. Most compelling are the "war stories" of vocations I admire greatly but, because of a myriad of inabilities, character flaws and a lack of courage, I could never perform the work. And, at the top of that list of those occupations is the noble profession of nursing. ...more

I am a dedicated reader of Mostly True Stories, ...more

Taking Tips from the Blogosphere

We don't know everything. I, for one, don't know Jack. I don't even who Jack is. Shows how much I know. And, should my teenager encounter this post in her web surfing, she'll be nodding her head so hard and furiously that she'll whiplash as she taunts - "Yup, that's for sure. Mom doesn't know Jack." Well, good, there's something we can agree on. ...more

Yes, I'm tooting my own horn here and having a blatant moment of self promotion but I'm a single ...more

Boomer Memories of Macrame and Mr. Ed

Baby Boomers. We started showing up in 1945 and kept rolling off the conveyor belt until 1964. There's 78 million of us, 28% of the American population. We are a huge tribe. We are the target of marketeers. We are running for president. We are in your face. We are everywhere. Everywhere except the blogosphere. At least, that's what I thought until recently. ...more

I've been on the look-out for slightly older bloggers, too. Thanks for the links!more

Flickr Stories - True Tales and Snapshots

I'm fond of taking pictures, but I am not a photographer. The noble endeavor of photography is an activity best avoided by non-arty philistines like me. I do, however, think of myself as an old school snapshot taker who loves to take pictures to tell a story. I am such an old school snapshot taker that I used to own and wield the lazy woman's snapshot machine, a Kodak Instamatic camera. ...more

Dearest AP, the Queen of North Carolina Bloggers - Warm greetings to you, my friend. Yes, I get ...more

Late Bloomer Jocks - Older Women Runners Train Hard and Run Fast

Last month, our prolific and much admired Contributing Editor for Travel, the witty and lovely Pam Mandel, offered an opposing view in her comment to a blog post where I got all jiggy in extolling the virtues and benefits of aging. I crowed: "...let go of your irrational fears of aging." And, reminded readers of the obvious: "...aging is far superior and definitely preferable to its grim and final alternative." Pam responded with her typical candor: Having embarked upon the annual exams and suffered the requisite indignities, I vote no to aging...The brain works FINE, thank you very much, but the body? At the crest of the hill, she doth protest too much. I ain't saying there's not plenty of good living to be had, but oy, my back, knees, etc. amen. ...more
Another area you may want to address is this irritating belief by many women of varying ages ...more