Finding happiness…

I fondly re-read these quotes today:  “The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.”James Oppenheim “When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”Helen Keller...more

Happiness is finding calmness and steadiness in a midst of a minucia incident... and continuing ...more

Music helps me heal...

When my ex-husband told me that he wanted to end our marriage, I spent that night crying to sleep and woke up thinking this was all just a dream. I was so lost. My heart and mind was filled with so many negative thoughts... and how my future felt so bleak and dark.  On the way to work that morning, out of habit, I turned on the music in my car.  It's the same type of music I have on my cd changer that I have been listening to which were varying degrees of trance, house and chillout music.  But on that day, I had an amazing epiphany....more

Why emotional defense mechanism can hurt you…

I am all walled up.  We’ve all been hurt before, we’ve all experienced the pain of disappointment in relationships.  It’s hard for anyone not to develop a built-in emotional self-defense mechanism when you get hurt.  When someone hurts you, you immediately put the walls up.  But what you don’t realized is that you end up incorporating this walls into your daily lives and decision making without discerning whether it is applicable to the circumstances, the people you are interacting with and the situation.  I recently had a self realization of having these walls up c...more

If someone throws a stone at you, throw a loaf of bread to him... I know I'm healing. Why? I ...more

How much not telling the truth will cost you

Today, I learned a hard lesson. Small lies, big lies, they are all the same. I lied to the kindest and nicest person I have ever met and hurt that person in the process. There is no excuse, if you don't want to say or answer the question, just say you do not want to. I guess it is so much easier just to give a different answer, which then becomes a lie....more