The Day My Daughter Chose a Book over Me

Anyone who’s known me for more than a week probably knows I am a bookworm. Give me an hour of precious free time, and I’ll quickly bury my head in the world of words.It took years before my husband finally realized that when I’m deep in a good story, he no longer exists to me. And should he persist in trying to get my attention, he deserves the fury he may unleash for pulling me so cruelly back to reality....more

I Forgot What a New Job Feels Like

It’s been 12 years since I have started a new job. I had forgotten how physically and emotionally draining the first few days, weeks and maybe even months can be....more

How Do You Learn to Trust Yourself?

How do you establish trust with someone you’ve betrayed too many times? And what if the person you’ve betrayed is yourself?Trusting themselves seems so easy for men, but I’m not certain the same holds true for women. Personally, I second guess myself all the time and I have plenty of friends who do the same. The problem is that for most of my life, I had lied to myself, so much so that I didn’t even realize I was lying anymore....more

Sometimes Prevention Is the Best Medicine

Today I mailed in the reply card for Prevention Magazine. Yep, I’m going to subscribe to the magazine that 15 years ago, I thought was for old people.Somehow I couldn’t resist their direct mail piece. It wasn’t the headlines that got me (“Fight Fat After 40,” “Stop Wrinkles Now”)—well, maybe they got my attention a little bit. It was the woman on the cover. She appeared older than 40 and was definitely winning the battles against fat, with a zestful smile and a body that looked strong enough to kick my ass....more

How Will You Take Action in the New Year?

Did 2015 take anyone else by surprise? Despite the Christmas festivities that always signify year’s end, I simply wasn’t prepared when New Year’s Eve rolled around. I hadn’t reflected at all on 2014 and certainly hadn’t given much thought to what I want this year to look like....more

Goodbye, Christmas, It's Time to Move On

Am I the only one who feels relieved when Christmas is over? I don’t know about you, but as soon as December 26 rolls around, I feel the immediate urge to take down every single Christmas decoration and shove it in the attic for the next year. The day after Christmas is like the day after a night of binge drinking. The fun is over and now you have to peel yourself out of bed, head pounding, and deal with the mess....more
Ha ha, passed a Christmas Tree devoid of decorations out on the curb on the 27th December.  I ...more

Know When to Hold ’Em”: Playing the Forgiveness Card

Nothing taps into the hopeless romantic buried deep beneath my sarcastic exterior like a wedding. Such a magical event—the couple who radiates happiness, the toasts that bring on laughter and tears, the music and dancing (I especially love that part!).I love it all really, but the longer I am married, the more it is the ceremony itself that affects me. Two optimistic souls saying, “I’m a nut job. You’re a nut job. Let’s see if we can win this game of life together.”...more

How Do We Keep From Losing Ourselves?

This month one of my book clubs read “Where’d You Go, Bernadette?,” a fictional story of a highly creative, up-and-coming architect who becomes a recluse after suffering a professionally tragedy. After years of keeping to herself—and becoming more than a bit nutty in the process—she actually physically disappears to Antarctica of all places, and her husband and daughter must find her. I wanted to love the book since it had rave reviews, but even though it was funny at times, I couldn’t suspend my disbelief enough. Antarctica? Really?...more

Birthday Induced Nostalgia: Why Do They Grow Up So Quickly?

My baby turns seven this week, which means I've begun my yearly descent into weepiness and nostalgia that isn't PMS-induced. It's the birthday blues, and they've appeared like clockwork ever since her first birthday. ...more

How Do You Determine How Much Are You Worth?

Any woman nearing middle age—or in denial that she is in middle age because once you hit 40, middle age is always 10 years older than you are—has learned never to ask the question: “Does this make me look fat?”It’s, of course, an unfair question because if you’re asking it, you already think you look fat. So basically you’re asking the recipient of your question to either lie or hurt your feelings....more