My Daughter’s Birthday Has Me Singing the Blues

My baby turns 7 this week, which means I’ve begun my yearly descent into weepiness and nostalgia that isn’t PMS-induced. It’s the birthday blues, and they’ve appeared like clockwork ever since her first birthday....more

Time Travel: 40-Something Style

Have you ever felt that confusing feeling that you’ve slipped into some kind of time-warped parallel universe? I’m not talking about time travel or even déjà vu. I’m referring to the feeling you get when you are experiencing a moment from the viewpoint of yourself at two different ages in time.This past weekend I experienced a trifecta of space-time weirdness when in the course of one evening, I felt 13, 22 and 41....more

Have You Learned to Be True to Yourself?

“To thine own self be true.”Shakespeare said it best. Of course, he was a dude, and having a penis seems to make it easier to live by this sentiment. (Yep, starting of this post with the “P” word!)...more

Can Home Depot Make You Hotter?

 Cat calls, whistles, inappropriate under-the-breath comments.Haven’t we women all felt that sickening feeling in the pits of our stomachs when we must walk solo passed a group of guys? We shrink up as small as possible as we slink by, desperately telling ourselves, “don’t make eye contact, don’t make eye contact” while simultaneously praying, “please don’t look at me, please don’t look at me.”...more

Times of Transition: How to Forge Through the Rings of Hell

This week I found myself sobbing uncontrollably in the bathroom. This was unexpected given that I’m not at all a crybaby. (Friends have told me I’d feel better if I cried more, but isn’t stoicism so much more productive?)It seems, however, the transition from renting urbanite to suburban home owner—and all that entailed mentally and physically—had taken me down the road toward a pity party of one....more

Why We Finally Caved to the ‘American Dream’

My husband and I have done two things we said we’d never do (and neither was reminiscent of 50 Shades of Grey). We bought a house and it’s in the suburbs.Isn’t this the American Dream? Perhaps for many people it is, but it’s never been our dream.After a condo-owning fiasco, we had sworn we’d never own property again. We’d happily fork over cash to a landlord if it meant trading in home maintenance and a hefty mortgage for more fun things, like dining out and European vacations....more

Walking Through A College Campus Evokes Mixed Emotions

My neighborhood has been teeming with new blood for the past two weeks—not with babies but instead with baby-faced college students.The townhouse we’ll be moving from in two weeks is just blocks from a college campus, and fresh-faced youngsters have descended upon the area like locusts. The electrifying combo of fear and excitement radiates off them like summer’s last heat....more

How I Spent the Best Summer Vacation of My Life

Today marks the first day of school and the official end to what I had dubbed the mother-daughter summer of fun. After nearly three months of staying up late, sleeping in, and pretty much setting our own schedule, we must return to routine....more
Experienced Bad Mom Thanks! Though I'm not sure our future summers will be quite so free, I ...more

What Does Happily Ever After Really Mean?

This week my parents celebrated 42 years of marriage. In a Facebook, my mother pondered if anyone truly understands the promises they are making when they get married. Her conclusion was that they don’t. Anyone who’s been married a decent length of time would probably agree—I know I do....more

What We Learn When Someone Young Dies

Yesterday I nearly had a panic attack while watching a movie about pandas. You might ask how cute, cuddly, endangered pandas could cause anyone anxiety. Well, they are endangered, but this angst was the self-centered kind not the I-must-save-the-world kind. The answer is simple and stupid: It was the middle of the afternoon, and I was at the public museum goofing off....more