The False Liberation of Swearing

Swearing is liberating. Cursing, using foul language, whatever you want to call it can make a person feel tougher, more powerful. A woman cursing says she could give a s**t about what other people think, she's unaware or uncaring about what's ladylike and what's not. She can go to work, come home to kids, swear a blue streak and fry it up on a pan. Oh yeah. No f**king kidding. Swearing women think saying f**k a lot reduces their vulnerability to the universe. At least that's what I always thought....more

When Peaches Aren't Ripe: 5 Ways My Youth Disappointed Me

We give youth everything. We give them looks. We give them brains. We give them energy. We give them political power.And then we sit aside and envy. Oh. If we were young, we'd be beautiful and so brilliant, incandescent in our energy and defining in our politics. If we were young, we would change the world....more

Dining Alone: The Journal from Awful to Lovely

The first time I ate dinner alone in a restaurant I had fettuccine in cream sauce with peas. There’s a name for that dish but I don’t remember it. I do remember holding a biography of Princess Diana on my lap, a hardcover book, one of a dozen I’d bought at the Harvard bookstore where I occupied myself in the appearance of intellectual pursuits while imagining my study group huddled around a table in a dark bar telling jokes and drinking expensive beer....more

What the Supreme Court Decision Means to Me As a Pre-Roe v. Wade Survivor

I know the fear. I remember everything about it. Being afraid of doing something illegal. Being afraid of getting hurt. Being afraid of bleeding to death. Being afraid of being so damaged that I wouldn't be able to have children when it was the right time. ...more
Thank you for being so generous. It IS generous to share something so personal with others, and ...more

My Father's Day Message to Young Dads

 Here's my Father"s Day message to Dads, especially young Dads. You matter. It doesn't matter what your wife or your girlfriend says. It doesn't matter if you don't know how to do anything useful or even if you have a job. You matter. Don't buy into any of the junk that you hear that your kids will be fine without you. They won't....more

A Long Time Coming: Getting to Know My Father

 It didn't take long for my father to develop an email style. His very first email carried what would become his signature farewell. TIE. Take it easy. Sometimes he added SIT. Stay in touch....more

Goodbye Kindle Hello Real Books

I'm done with my Kindle. It lays uncharged on my bookcase, a dead black rectangle. I missed some deadline for updating its technology so it probably wouldn't work right even if it was charged. I let it die. It was no accident. People came around with food and water, offered to call 911 and start CPR and I just said no. No, it's better this way....more

Who Drives and Who Holds On? Motorcycles and Feminism

How a man and woman riding on a motorcycle made me think twice about power....more

The Rusty Chain: Thinking about Abandonment and Adoption

Not everything about abandonment is sad. Take this beefy blue bike, for instance.One person might figure Beefy Blue was junked, its chain too rusty for locomotion. Another might see the same old bike as an opportunity to sail down the street with a loaf of bread and a pound of butter tucked into a new white basket snapped on to the pitted handlebars. This bike could say yesterday's done blues to one person and oh joy! to the next....more
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