Saving Race

I sit. I eat chocolate, too much. I drink wine.I cry during the news but can't read the paper.  I sleep, not well. I fear, but hold on to hope.I replay the recording in my head from the day we met with the adoption agency and said we didn't care what color kid we were wanting to adopt. “Your son could have African American features, are you prepared to raise an African American child?” ...more

Don't Forget Yourself

Don't Forget Yourself11/20/14As it is with most things Autism lately, I seem to be going in circles.  No two of these kids are the same and neither are their parents, but I keep running in the same cycle. It is my hope that by sharing what I’ve learned I can help another family. ...more
I can totally relate to this.  I have a three-year-old with autism.  When I stay up late, don't ...more

Lonely & Scared: How Autism Attempts to Keep Me Isolated

And here I sit… again. I've been thinking about a post on the reality of Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) parental isolation for years, but have been afraid to publish. And here I sit… desperately needing to talk to someone with no one at all to call. How could I possibly explain my child's latest antics to a parent of neuro-typical children. Heck, some parents of ASD kids can't understand my kid's behaviors, and they are up to their eyeballs in their own kids' stuff. My burdens will not help them. ...more
Oh my goodness! I could have written this myself, though I would have a cute cat on my lap ...more

My Autism Numbers

Today was a rough day, for those sharing the ASD fish bowl. The reality of 30% increase in ASD cases is scary and yet another rude, wake-up call.We must keep educating our kids and each other. We have to come together to share ideas, best practices and build each other up. We must fight for our children. ...more

Manhood Matters

I knew the moment would come, well many moments actually, where I would struggle to explain the birds and bees to Super Hero Jake. It’s a delicate subject to start with but he’s so black and white… so literal… so our answers are devoid of details. Also, for the record, these moments repeatedly happen in the car! So I’m captive, he’s curious and the likelihood of me ditching the car when he ventures into the baby territory is great! Throw in a little early puberty for good measure!...more

Rhymes With Duck

Rhymes With Duck When you have a child with echlolalia you learn to hold your breath! You pray that every adult he engages in conversation with is appropriate and not sarcastic. And you never swear in front of him. ...more

Reminder in the Mail

There goes the dream of having another child. The pain of a second failed adoption has taken 2 years to heal from. I need to write it, purge it, and pray about it, one final time. I haven’t written about this awful loss in our lives for years because it’s raw. And no matter how much I pretend to say I’m over it, the pain is still near the surface when the reminders rear their ugly head....more