The Final Tie

It seems forever ago that my now ex husband came home to tell me he didn’t trust me anymore based on a few off handed comments made to my sister.  He waited two months to tell me, treated me terribly, and ruined a long planned trip to New Orleans.  So much for communication....more
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Ready or not . . .

Today I signed my divorce papers.  Now they must go before the judge to get his/her stamp of approval and then that’s it, another one bites the dust.  To celebrate today I created a profile on an on-line dating site.  I think it’s time to get back out there.  Since he wasted no time in hitting the dating scene (I think he’s on number 2?!) I thought what the heck?  Did you know 1 in 5 relationships start on-line?  Ha, I’ve only heard this from friends, coworkers and even some of my students.  So I go through all the prompts, write a little blurb ab...more

Dating after divorce is so difficult. Dating in and of itself is difficult, but after divorce, ...more

Bring it!

Today I signed my divorce papers.  Now they must go before the judge to get his/her stamp of approval and then that’s it, another one bites the dust.  To celebrate today I created a profile on an on-line dating site.  I think it’s time to get back out there.  Since he wasted no time in hitting the dating scene (I think he’s on number 2?!) I thought what the heck?  Did you know 1 in 5 relationships start on-line?  Ha, I’ve only heard this from friends, coworkers and even some of my students.  So I go through all the prompts, write a little blurb ab...more

Summer Healing

Fast forward 5 months and I find myself sitting in my brand new apartment.  I am finally surrounded by the things I love and the re-invention of me continues.  I am making this new space into a home for myself and am surprised to find it has quite a few more feminine touches than all of my other places combined.  Why is this I wonder?  I am the strong one, the rock.  Not much fazes me in life.  When I get knocked down, I brush the dirt off and keep moving....more

Time to move on

Time heals all wounds.  Give it time.  Time will tell.  Have you ever noticed all the sayings that have time tied to them in some fashion?  For me time and reflection go hand in hand.  My reflections lately have been centered on my failed marriage.  Am I really the victim I think I am?  The surprising answer is no I’m not.  The end of this relationship has been in the works for a while.  Maybe I would have chosen the exact ending differently but looking back I see things for what they really are, not what I want them to be.  I have been emot...more

Those Little Rituals

Do you ever notice that after a break up you eventually start to pay more attention to yourself again?  Actually for me I never really realize that I stop paying attention to myself....more

It's time to reframe that fairytale thinking.

Starting as young girls we watch and read the lovely fairytales where the beautiful princess finally meets her prince charming and they get married and live happily ever after.  Don’t you ever wish, as adults, we could see the “where are they now” updates?   Is the princess still as thin and lovely as she once was?  Did prince charming continue to slay dragons or did he hang up his lance and decide the lounger and remote were more interesting?  Who’s to say how that happily ever after works out and sometimes it just doesn’t.  It’s time to reframe my thinking.&n...more

Picking up the pieces. . . Where is the glue?

And so, on that cold Winter Solstice morning I packed up a few of my prized possessions and loaded my dog into my little car and left my big, fancy house for the last time.  I drove off to spend the next few weeks and the holidays with my family.  It a new beginning, putting the pieces of my life back together.  The house was for sale and I planned to stay with friends after the holidays. It started with what seemed to be an innocent e-mail from my husband and then a series of events unfolded that brought about major life changes I wasn’t quit...more

Well Said Franki. Thanks for the kind words!more