First Year Teaching

This August I'm going to be 40 and it's going to be my 11th year teaching. I don't know why I didn't write a ten year one, I guess I don't care about even numbers. For some reason I got to thinking about what my first year teaching. Ahhh, the memories: student teaching, mentor teachers, funny mishaps. hahaha.  Except none of those things happened to me. It not only wasn't funny, it wasn't fun and I wanted to die. I never did any student teaching, my department chairs were old, mean, withered bitches, and at one point that first year, I pooped my pants. ...more

Mindful Parenting

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When I was One and Twenty

 My son is going to be 21 next month and I'm going to be sober for 5 years. Last night, at age 39, I was honored as one of fourteen teachers in my district as Teacher of the Year. On my 22nd birthday, I checked myself into a rehab program. At 23, I spent the night in jail the day before I moved to Florida. Three years later I graduated with a bachelor's degree. It's likely I wasn't sober for most of the 7 years I lived in Florida. By age 29, I had a master's degree and became a high school teacher....more

Talking to Your Kids About People Holding Cardboard Signs on Corners

Starting around November the number of people holding cardboard signs on the side of the road has increased in my area. I'm pretty good at ignoring people, but when I see them I'm quietly afraid they might try to jump in my car and demand I take them to a gas stationPeople with cardboard signs have always been around, like scenery.  I lived in Florida when my son was little and we would see them, standing, frowning, looking shabby and sad. We got pretty used to them and once around age 7, as I was driving through an intersection, my son said, "oh, another stupid homo."...more

Drunk Adults at Birthday Parties

I took one of my daughter's to a birthday party the other day in a part of town that reminded me of the 80s. The houses were probably built in the 70s, low ceilings, sunk in living room and linoleum.I  lived in a home like that until about 1988 when stucco really became a big deal and track homes and HOAs were the cool kid in town.So I drop my kid off after introducing myself to the parents. I'll be back in two hours. At a certain age it's okay to just drop your kid off. I don't like small talk....more
Oh I would have been judgmental x10.  27 point to you for leaving your child and not hovering ...more

People Holding Cardboard Signs

Starting around November the number of people holding cardboard signs on the side of the road has increased in my area. I'm pretty good at ignoring people, but when I see them I'm quietly afraid they might try to jump in my car and demand I take them to a gas station.People with cardboard signs have always been around, like scenery.  I lived in Florida when my son was little and we would see them, standing, frowning, looking shabby and sad. We got pretty used to them and once around age 7, as I was driving through an intersection, my son said, "oh, another stupid homo."...more

Another Blog about being a Parent

Today as I was driving back from picking Tyler up from the place he is living now, I had a frightening realization about our relationship....more

When it Rains

When I was seven or eight or some naive age, I gave my dad a picture I colored of a rainbow, some rain, and a few clouds. In my childish writing, over the rainbow I wrote, "When it rains, look for the rainbow." It said that because it was a song I was singing in the school choir so it was plastered to my psyche even though I had no idea what it meant. My dad knew what it meant and he started crying. I was pretty freaked out by seeing a man cry, especially my dad....more

Being 20

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