Hey Mom! Give Yourself Permission To Dream

I’m still on my resilience trek, and it’s pretty amazing. I’ve fallen down all over the place, tripped on my shoelaces, and even locked myself out once or twice.See? Amazing. It’s okay; you can laugh....more

Hope In Unlikely Places

I believe in second chances.Well, not at first, there was a time when I’d give something a go and if it didn’t yield the result I wanted right away, I’d toss it aside.I’m flawed.Beautiful rose garden — not mine....more

This Is What Trust Looks Like...

They say things far away from you seem bigger than they really are. I think there’s truth to this because I’ve found that the longest distance is usually between where you are and where you want to be.How do we make the connection? What will the end bring? What’s the process to get there?...more
I only wrote spiritual goals this year as I find they are more attainable than other goals. They ...more

Is It Righteous Indignation or Feminist Virtues?

A women’s intuition is a powerful thing, I’m convinced that it’s a gift we’re born with. Some of us are more in tune with it than others but nevertheless all women have this innate ability of knowing when something just doesn’t quite add up.“Who would like to give the closing prayer?” Sister Abbie would ask us. She was my first Sunday school teacher and very well liked among the kids because she had the best snacks. We were a motley crew of elementary and middle school aged students, southern, all from different socio-economical backgrounds....more

The Best Way To Say 'No' And Not Lose Yourself

Have you ever felt backed into a corner?You wanted to say “no” …needed to say “no”….knowing well that “no” would be the right thing to say, but somehow between your brain processing the request and your mouth opening, the word “yes” comes falling out?It never ceases to amaze me how we make commitments all because we haven’t quite mastered use of one small word.Notice Ididn’tsay simple.Saying “no” is never easy or simple....more

How the Alarm Clock Reminds Us of Second Chances

The screech from the alarm woke me instantly. My body was awake but my mind numb. Instinctively, I slapped the top of the little black box hoping to strike the snooze button, silencing the wretched little thing.It worked.Exhaling deeply, I rolled on my back and stared at the ceiling.Another day.A zillion thoughts ran through my mind, my to-do list was suddenly turned back on. If you could see it, imagine an obnoxiously bright sign with flashing neon lights.Open....more
Wow, what a powerful insight you got from that experiment!more

Hoarder Confession: Grief, Shame, and Guilt Have Buried Me Alive

I’m no reality TV show junkie, trust me, but I have gravitated towards a show on A&E called Hoarders. Have you seen it? The people on the program all basically have the same issue:  they hold on to things that they perceive as valuable or that adds meaning to their lives. You immediately notice that their addiction is clearly dysfunctional and out of control. This is beyond clutter; the “stuff” they’ve accumulated has completely taken over their lives. They live to hoard....more
thesophislife  You're absolutely right, we are all so worth it.  We do deserve joy and happiness ...more

Something Within

“I freed a thousand slaves. I could have freed a thousand more if only they knew they were slaves.” – Harriet Tubman“I’ve got the perfect place for lunch today,” my editor beamed.The lines on his bearded face deepened with excitement. Standing up from his desk, he stared out of the large window that surrounded the newsroom and stretched his long limbs with anticipation. In sight was a picturesque view of the harbor, a few sail boats were moving inland....more