After the Flag Comes Down, Then What?

Let's get one thing straight up front: it's time for the flag to come down. It's divisive, it's hurtful, and whatever you or I or anyone might have meant by keeping or displaying it just doesn't matter now that the Dylann Roofs of this world have chosen it as their banner. Jan 21, 2008 - Columbia, South Carolina, U.S. - The Confederate Battle Flag flies on the grounds of the South Carolina State House (Credit Image: © Erik Lesser/ZUMA Press)...more
Parthenia Queen All great points.  We have a lot of hard work to do.more

Talking with Kids about Race

Update: I wrote this five years ago.  I think many of us hoped racism would die simply die out along with elderly racists.  What happened in Charleston makes it clear that racism persists even in the young.  So those of us who are parents have a responsibility to try to raise non-racist children.  I find myself doing this differently now and actually talkin more about race with my younger kids than I did with my older ones....more

Let's Hear It for Skin!

They Like Me! (Or Maybe They Don't. And I Don't Care.)

Image Credit: Spirit Science Most of us want to be liked, right?  It's human nature, isn't it, to crave acceptance, to want to be part of a tribe?  But worrying about whether people like you can be debilitating....more

#1000Speak: The Compassion Connection

Let's connect!  Looking forward to connecting! I'd like to connect with you!...more

Do You Ever Feel Like a Hidden Mother?

I don't remember how I happened to run across my first hidden—or even better, invisible—mother photograph. But I've been haunted by the pictures ever since I discovered them. There's really nothing sinister about them. The shrouded mother was never meant to be featured in the photograph. Here's how it was supposed to work. ...more
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Becoming Part of the Tribe

Should We Be Applauding the Baltimore Mom Who Beat Her Rioting Son?

Am I the only person in America who is having a little problem with this? Image Credit: WMAR Please understand, I am NOT bashing this mother. I am sure she loves her son and was concerned for his safety and his future. I'm not accusing her of abuse, or saying that her parenting caused her son to be a rioter, or advocating that he be removed from her care....more
SamanthaLily Thanks, Samantha.  You put it well and succinctly!more

First Communion, Nostalgia, and How Time Really Does Fly

Facebook newsfeeds teem with Prom photos this time of year, and--if you are Catholic--with First Communion pictures.  Both are rites of passage that many of us can relate to and which engender nostalgia (or PTSD, depending on what your Prom experience was)....more

Is Fear Ruining Childhood

Like many people approaching the mid-century (ACK!) mark, I look back fondly on childhood as an idyllic episode in my life.  And while it may be true, as Doug Larson says, that "nostalgia is a file that removes the rough edges from the good old days," I still think those days were pretty good....more