What You Should Require in Exchange for Giving Your Heart to a Man

If I could impart one piece of advice to women about relationships it would be simple and it would be this:If you’re going to hand over your heart to someone, don’t settle for anything less than being worshipped in return.  Absolute adoration is a requirement.  Nothing less will do....more
Lisa you couldnt be more true..You made so many very salient points and everything you said are ...more

What’s on Your Schedule Ten Days From Now?

A couple of weeks ago I got myself all worked up over some stuff.   I’m not talking about a few minutes or even a couple of days worth of worked up.  I’m talking more than a week.  I was in a vibe flow that was pretty intense and it wasn’t pleasant.  At some point mid-vibe breakdown I even thought to myself, “Lisa, you are feeling all of this pretty intensely right now.  This is going to come back at you and you aren’t going to like it when it does.”Bingo!...more

Meet Mr. and Mrs. Perfect

Somebody asked me recently if I believed a perfect relationship was possible and if so what that would look like.  The answer to the question is yes, I do believe perfect relationships are possible.  In fact, I’ve seen a lot of them, and none of them are exactly the same....more

Why Unification is the Death of a Marriage

Recently I met with a couple who literally showed up wearing almost matching outfits.  They talked a lot in the framework of “we”.“We like salsa dancing.”“We like Tudor style architecture.”“We call ourselves ‘independents’ politically.”“We are Southern Baptist.”“We decided on cornflower blue for the bathroom.”...more

Why You Should Be a Spiritual Hedonist

There is an age old question I tend to ask myself frequently.“Is it my business, someone else’s business, or God’s business?”...more

How to Stay Married

In an interview recently, I was asked the question everyone wants an answer to.  How do couples who stay married do it?   I’m pretty sure the interviewer was looking for a much more profound answer than the one I gave.  However, the truth of the matter is this.  People who stay married do it by not getting divorced....more

The First Rule of Relationships

A few weeks ago my kiddo was staying with my sister.  Every time we pick him up when he spends the weekend away I always hold my breath a little when I get the “behavior report” for the weekend.  You just never know how that’s going to go.  Kids will do the darndest things when they are staying with Aunties who spoil them rotten....more

Who the Hell Do I Really Want to Be?

The brain spends about 80% of it’s conscious resources remembering and cataloging things and events.  It’s a little bit like your computer putting things in cache.  When you visit a website your computer has cached, what you see on your screen may or may not be current.  To be exact, your computer stored a version of that site from a previous visit.  It makes for much quicker loading.  Your web browser doesn’t have to deal with the details.  It can just sort of load around the periphery....more

Why Not Taking Care of Myself is Lazy and Selfish

I don’t know how to explain how much effort it takes to keep me upright and moving forward this time of year. For a girl who clearly suffers from Seasonal Affective Disorder, Washington State is a rough place to be in the Winter months. I know I should probably change my story about how I fair in the winter months, and some years I do better. However, generally the winters I do well involve quite a bit of travel, and for reasons out of anyone’s control, there has been no travel this winter. So, without elaborating too much, I’ll just say, I’m more than a little sluggish right now....more

What if the Number on the Scale Told You Exactly Not One Thing that’s Important?

A couple of weeks ago I strained my back badly during a workout.  I cringed every time I took a deep breath.  I couldn’t sleep.  I couldn’t even think about picking up my kid.  So, after about a week, I gave up and went to the doctor to get a muscle relaxant.  When I got called back to the exam room, I experienced the same thing most women do when they’re walking to the hall to the exam room.  I felt like I was walking the gang plank, knowing that before I got to the safety of the exam room I’d have to get on a scale.   My husband is well trained....more