I spent most of the last two decades living in larger cities with at least a half hour commute to work in the morning.  Part of the appeal of my current location was “no more driving” to get to work.  I was excited about the 7-minute commute and it was a big selling point to taking the job, buying the house and settling into this community. Why then, did I leave an extra half hour early this morning and travel several minutes out of our normal route?  It was the first time I had ever done this… but it was fun.  My son sat in the back seat, watching the cars out t...more

Always a woman

“Love me like you loved me when you loved me and you didn’t have to try.”   Luke Bryan I lost a friend this week and it really sucks.  Being new in a community and being a single mom, I don’t come by friends easily.  I don’t have time to get out and make friends.  I’m always at work or with my son.  I met this man online and immediately liked him.  He made me grin, think and relax, and I know that I did the same for him....more
You are right.. you were selling yourself short!!  Some of us luv ya, just cuz you are you.. ...more

Evidence of things not seen

I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with Organic Chemistry.  When I was first exposed to it, it baffled me.  The professor was retiring that semester and had a low tolerance for questions, the book assumed an understanding of nomenclature that was completely foreign to me and I spent a great deal of time interpreting what was said and not fully understanding anything.  I scraped by with a ‘D’ which was nowhere near good enough for a science major....more
@ladyaylan Isn't it amazing how being knocked down a time or two changes our perceptions?more

The Cellist


Those three things

 I visited a friend in the hospital today.  He seemed to be doing well and he was, understandably, introspective.   He has been facing a very serious illness and you could tell that his thoughts had wandered to the "what if" region that most of us spend enormous amounts of energy actively preventing our minds from examining. ...more
Isn't it amazing what God does to knock over our barriers and our challenge our faith, and ...more


  I've struggled, of late, to label myself.  Find a category I can climb comfortably into and grow.  This has been a theme for decades with me.  Where do I fit?  What church should I join?  What career should I pursue?  Appblebees or Chilis?  Levi's or Wrangler?  Becoming pregnant and having my son threw me into a muddle of labeling as I and everyone that I interacted with forced labels on me in order to properly identify and digest everything that was happening. ...more

Who sits at your conference table?

 I remember reading a book several years ago wherein the author described a conference table in his mind.  He stated that he had this conference table in his mind and those who sat at it were constantly judging and critiquing how he lived his life.  In his mind, these people sat around a conference table judging him..."Oh Johnny got an A on his report card!  Great!  But why isn't Johnny playing football?"   ...more
@ladyaylan  I believe you are a blog post entirely unto yourself... "the girl who would not go ...more

Nope, that's not my grandson.

I have, more than once, opened mouth and inserted foot.  Once, while walking a 5k race, I commended a woman for competing while pregnant only to be told, “ I’m not pregnant.”  Yes, I hustled away from her.  I’ve made a jerk of myself more than once, so I get it.   I guess that’s why I don’t get too bent out of shape when people ask if my son is my grandson....more

Would you open the door to a stranger?

I think my dog is going deaf.  She’s a 12 year old black lab, so I guess it’s possible.  Not a puppy anymore.  I’ve always relied on her to tell me when someone was at the door, or driving by or, you know, walking down the street four roads down.  ...more
I would have opened the door for a young girl like that. But I have a 14 year-old daughter. So ...more

My Mom Doesn't Respect Our Santa-Free Christmas

Some of my parenting choices are a little bit unconventional. Not outrageously so, but mildly. I co-sleep and breastfeed my toddler. We did baby-led weaning. I skipped the purees and instead introduced table food at eight months. I don’t believe in spanking and I am not planning on telling my son that Santa Claus is a real person....more
Hi! As soon as I read the title of your post, I knew it was going to be interesting. :) I was ...more