Domestic Violence: "If He Loved You, He Wouldn't Have Hit You"

Bullshit. It’s such a common thing to say, but it’s not true. Not always. All relationships are different, just like the people in them are. It is very, very possible to hit someone that you love. Love and violence are not mutually exclusive. ...more
but what if he loves and accepts you when noone else does or could and he only hits you because ...more

You Are No Better Than the Average Whore

People who have never worked in the sex industry - or who have never known anyone who was able to thrive while working in it - have superiority complexes. Maybe I would have one, too, if I hadn’t done it myself. There’s no way for me to know, although I’m hoping I’d be open-minded and not judgmental. Lately, I feel like I haven’t been able to escape the people looking down their noses at sex workers....more

I know I'm pretty late on this one, but couldn't read without commenting.

I work on the ...more

Young (White & Thin) Hollywood

I feel like I should first begin with telling you all that I love Vanity Fair, and I love Annie Leibovitz's photos, in general. I find the articles interesting and pictures beautiful. Alright, that's enough of a disclaimer. I'm pretty unhappy with Vanity Fair, and the "choice" of ladies they've put on their cover this month. I'm sure the moment you see it, you'll see what's irking me. ...more don't expect the rampantly caucasian editors of Vanity Fair to ...more

He Says: "You Got Dimensions."

Joey tells me that constantly, and he always has. It’s his way of appreciating a woman’s curves. I always roll my eyes and giggle, because he’s a nerd, and also because to me, I could stand to be much less dimensional. Usually I mutter something about being obese or just shrug it off. He persists and tells me that if I want to be smaller, I should do something about it, but that it’s not a big deal. That I am gorgeous. Then I get aggravated that he’s telling me to change my diet and routine, just as I am aggravated that he’s ok with how I am....more hard it is to take the compliment, to change the words, I am working on it, you can ...more

The First Year of School

This year will be my oldest daughter Isabella's first time attending school: Kindergarten. She didn't go to Pre-K and she's only gone to a daycare about 3 months of her entire life, back when I couldn't rearrange some classes of my own to time where family could care for her. Since I was able to stay at home I felt as if it wasn't right for anyone else to care for her or teach her or do anything that was ultimately my job and responsibility. So she's relied on family and playgroups for social interaction and Noggin and I for education. I'm happy to say that she's a very smart, well behaved, well adjusted child. I know she'll excel in school and she's really looking forward to it, but I'm slightly apprehensive. ...more

My child is only 2 years old and I have anxiety thinking about the first day of school as it ...more

My Early Birds.

I've never been big on schedules really, meals and naps and things have always been pretty lax in my house, but my daughters' nightly bedtime has always been 7:30, for as long as I can remember. Every single person I've ever relayed this information to, be it parent or not, has looked at me horrifically wondering why on Earth I'd put them down so early. ...more

or early in bed times if the children won't go to sleep.  My chldren are grown but I'm trying ...more

Indoor Fun to Beat Summer Heat & Boredom

Summers in my household are no different from the rest of the seasons because my daughters aren't in school yet. Except that we live in North Carolina and the sweltering, sticky summers are awful. Some days, to avoid looking like sweaty pigs from the humidity or steamed lobsters from the stinging sun, we have no choice but to stay indoors. On those day, I've had to come up with a few sure fire ways to combat boredom to prevent the girls from becoming stir crazy, and myself as well. ...more

i wished i read your post before heading to the beach this weekend.  in virginia, our weather ...more

Going to see UP? Bring tissues.

Up is the number one movie in America, by far, bringing in $68 million in it's first weekend alone. When I took my daughters to see it (the first time) I was expecting just another entertaining, lighthearted, there's-a-lesson-in-there-too, colorful and beautiful to look at Pixar film. I mean, there's a floating house, talking dogs, an adorably chubby little boy and an equally adorable elderly man, the Disney equivalent to Clint Eastwood's character in Gran Torino (minus the racism). I'm a huge Pixar fan, loving just about everything they've produced so far besides Cars, which I just don't get the hype about, and I knew from the previews that Up would be no different, but I had no idea that I'd be sitting there fighting back tears for the the first 1/2 an hour and biting my lip intermittently throughout the entire thing. ...more

Hey Jen,

Hmm, maybe you're right. I guess I wasn't thinking of Russell as an allegory ...more

"It's time to clean up."

I don't believe in cleaning up after my children in any way that they are capable of handling themselves. Sometimes I do it because it may be faster, or they may be feeling unwell or leaving to go out with their father, but other than those rare circumstances, it's their job. It has been since each of them were old enough to handle it. That doesn't mean that it's not a struggle sometimes. My daughters are a lot like me, namely, stubborn and spoiled. They have way too much stuff, which they love until it's time to wade through all of it and place it back where it belongs. So much of it that when it comes time to clean, I get whines of "I have to do everything!" and "there is just too much to pick up!" and I'm forced to remind them of all the laundry, dishes, bed making, floor sweeping and bathroom scrubbing that I must do because they are such dirty little things in order to get silence. ...more

I have a big bag called the Hungry Bag that I get out whenever my kids are dawdling or ...more

Atheist Parenting: Raising Children Without Deities

I've been an Atheist claiming Agnosticism since I was 9 years old. I stopped believing the day before I was baptized into the church. The pastor sat me down to ensure I realized the seriousness of what I was doing and invited my questions. He couldn't give me any answers that didn't center around blind faith and I needed more than that, even as a child, before I could agree to devote my life to an unseen being. I still was baptized out of respect for my grandparents, and 'faked it' until I was 12, when I finally told them that I didn't believe in their God and broke their hearts. Raising my daughters as a skeptic that still has respect for what others believe is difficult for me. Atheists are viewed as people with no moral barometer, unholy and all that's wrong with the world in this Christian dominated nation. I see it all too often here in The South, with countless old ladies blessing my children for being adorable or asking what church we go to. I find myself hesitant to tell anyone that brings up religion with me that I'm an Atheist. I've had enough of the horrified looks to last me a lifetime, so I normally just nod and smile. ...more
 @LisaBrandos If you dropped all the materials to build a house from a helicopter enough times ...more