Save Your Sanity – and Your Kid’s – By Building Systems

 The original title of this post was “How to Hack Your Kids,” but that seemed a tad sensational – even for me....more

Stop Misusing Words of Power

 The women who read and post on BlogHer don’t have to be told that words have power. We know that already, with every fiber of our beings. We know that words have the power to break our hearts or make us cry with joy. That they can call out every emotion that we have and intensify them. That they can make us feel unattractive, shy, weak, incapable, and fearful, or beautiful, confident, competent, courageous and engaged....more

Why I’m Giving Up On Self-Confidence

“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.” – Samuel Beckett Like many women, I suppose, I’ve always wanted to be more confident. And not just more confident, but more capable, more self-assured, more certain that I was always doing the right thing at the right time the right way for the right reasons. I wanted to be a black Jodie Foster – that woman seems like she can handle *anything*....more

Look Back And See How Far You've Come

“When you turn around and find there’s no place left to runTake a look behind me and see how far we’ve come.” -- David Lynn Jones This morning, I took an early morning stroll with my trusty German Shepherd and walked through a neighborhood that’s changed a lot in the decade since I moved here. What was once a strongly middle-class area seems to have taken a hit along with the local economy. Many of the houses have tanked in value, and it shows in the wear of paint jobs and overgrown lawns.  ...more