THE MAIN THING IS TO KEEP THE MAIN THING THE MAIN THING

I was so struck by this quote from Stephen Covey, I decided to write a blog about it. The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing. What if it were possible to do this, every single day? Think of all the obstacles you could eliminate. No more procrastination, no more second guessing yourself, no more false starts, no more wasted time. You wouldn't be at loose ends when you start your day because you would have a blueprint right in front of you. It would be simple. No more dithering about, wondering what to do. You would just do THE MAIN THING....more

BAD LUCK, GOOD LUCK, ARE YOU SUPERSTITIOUS?

Yesterday was Friday the 13th. (Yes, I know I'm a "day late and a dollar short," but this is such a fun blog topic, I just couldn't resist.) If you're reading this, I assume you survived Friday the 13th with no mishaps. So...no black cats crossed your path, you didn't open an umbrella in the house and you didn't walk under a ladder....more

LOVE MEANS NEVER HAVING TO SAY YOU'RE SORRY

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VOLUNTEERING IS GOOD FOR THE SOUL

Volunteering is one of those activities that pays back big dividends. When  you serve up a hot meal at a soup kitchen, bake a cake to raise money for your child's school, or process adoption papers at the local SPCA, you  help yourself. Did you know that people who volunteer--whether it's through a church group, a civic association or a favorite charity--are happier, healthier, and have lower rates of depression than people who don't volunteer?...more

Have You Already Ditched Your New Year's Resolutions? Don't Worry.

Did you know that most New Year's resolutions bite the dust by mid-February? If your shiny new vows have already become tarnished, don't despair. I have a better method. Instead of making "resolutions," choose six "habits" that you'd like to incorporate into your life. Six sounds like a lot but the beauty of this plan is that you don't have to tackle all six at once. They are sequential. You add one each week until you have accumulated (and hopefully mastered) all six. ...more

THE KEY TO BREAKING BAD HABITS

Which bad habit would you like to break? Spending too much time on the internet, smoking, over-eating, excessive drinking, spending too much, or gambling? Bad habits form as a reaction to stressful live events and once established, they can be difficult to break. Here are some common sense solutions to help you get to the root of the problem. Identify what triggers your habit. Are you constantly stressed, over-scheduled and on edge? Bad habits often make their appearance during troubling times....more

A Psychologist's Guide to Crooks, Creeps and Con Artists

Is your boyfriend suffering from the dreaded Jekkyl and Hyde syndrome? Does he appear to be Mr. Nice Guy before suddenly morphing into a monster?Here's a typical scenario. When you first meet him, he's every woman's dream: charming, caring and so sensitive, he could probably watch a Lifetime movie marathon without grabbing the remote. But after a few weeks, he's become a predator, a born manipulator. Why didn't you see it coming? The problem may be you! Did you ignore some red flags along the way?Here a few warning signs, some red flags to get you started....more

HOW TO SPOT A SOCIOPATH, PART TWO

More red flags!Red Flag He's convinced he's smarter than you. One well-known drug dealer told me he made more in a week than I made in a year. (Sadly, this was probably true). I reminded him that he was the one sitting in handcuffs in an orange jumpsuit, serving eight to ten in a maximum security prison....more
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HOW TO SPOT A SOCIOPATH, PART ONE

  My clients often ask me to describe a "sociopath" and how they can learn how to spot one. What they're really asking is: how can I protect myself from one? Here are a few issues that should set off alarm bells. If your partner (or would-be partner) displays any of these traits, run the other way. Don't hesitate, don't prevaricate, it's time to get out of Dodge. ...more

How To Break Bad Habits

Which bad habit would you like to break? Spending too much time on the internet, smoking, over-eating, excessive drinking, spending too much, or gambling? Bad habits form as a reaction to stressful life events and once established, they can be difficult to break. Here are some common sense solutions to help you get to the root of the problem. ...more