on absolute authority

I have a problem with absolute authority. I have a problem with hypocrisy. I have a problem with "do as I say, not as I do." I don't believe in wielding fear as a weapon of power. I don't believe love stems from fear, and I don't believe respect does either. A true leader leads by example. A true leader earns his/her constituents' trust and respect. A true leader listens as much as he/she speaks. A true leader trusts his/her appointed peoples to do their jobs. A true leader is sometimes wrong, and admits it. A true leader apologizes and means it....more

on honesty

Be honest with me, even if you know you're going to hurt me. That hurt is 1/100th of the hurt I will know when I find out you've been lying to me. This isn't a free pass to tactlessly break my heart. You don't have to be blunt and/or rude. Realize you're about to hurt me and be as gentle as possible, but don't lie to me. I want to do the same for you. Can you handle it?...more

on connecting

I'm convinced connections are what life's all about. I'm not talking about networking, about a web of contacts. I'm talking about really connecting with another human being. Seeing it in their face. Feeling it in your heart. Just looking at one another and feeling that understanding without a word. About finishing each other's sentences and having intimate conversations because you want to share more to receive more....more

on feelings

"Don't be so sensitive." I hate those words. What I hear is "Your feelings are not valid." My feelings are what they are. I might find them stupid, too. I might not know why I feel that way, or why I hurt like I do. But I can't change them...this is how I feel, and I'm not going to lie to you about them so you don't get upset. I'm telling you about them not because I necessarily blame you or want you to feel bad....more

on falling in love

I wasn't looking for love. Hell, I don't know if I even believed in it. I've always been one of those girls who thought sappy love songs were like bad actors...overdone. And then I fell in love. He's the one. I know with all my heart, without a doubt, that I love him. That I would gladly devote the rest of my life to spending it with him. That I want a family with him. That I want to wake up seeing his face for the rest of my days. For the rest of eternity. He's so everything. Funny. Thoughtful. Good at communication! Tender. Intelligent. Handsome. Honest....more