Finding the Optimal Push

I’m proud to have an essay published in this month’s New York Family magazine on finding what sports psychologist Larry Lauer calls “the optimal push”: pushing your kids just hard enough to have them reach their full potential. It’s easier said than done, of course, and I certainly don’t have the answers. When I compare myself to other parents– and my kids’ schedules to those of their peers– I can come away feeling both that our house is full of slackers and that I am the awful-est Tiger Mother of all time ....more

breaking my comfortable silence

When the murders in Charleston occurred almost two weeks ago, anyone with a brain in their head did a lot of soul-searching. A lot of bloggers, speakers– people with online platforms, whatever they call themselves–...more

The Songs That Made Me

This month Rolling Stone...more

I thought my kids had outgrown LEGOs. I was wrong.

Once upon a time, my two sons– like most children their ages–...more

join Listen To Your Mother: NYC at Barnes & Noble on Friday May 8th!

If you’re in the NYC area, please join me this Friday night at the Upper West Side Barnes & Noble (82nd and Broadway) for a free reading and signing event to celebrate the new anthology LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER, as part of The Museum of Motherhood’s “Art of Motherhood” reading series. I’m so proud to have been included in this anthology, which makes a wonderful Mother’s Day gift (hint hint). I’ll be there with fellow contributors Barbara Patrick, Patty Chang Anker, and Kathy Curto to read our essays and talk a little bit about the writing process in general, and this anthology in particular ....more

momcation: achieving the escape velocity required

No matter which Real Housewives variation...more

It’s Publication Day for LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER!

Last week I went to a staged reading of a play with a plot that...more

Dear Amelia Bedelia: what the hell is the matter with you?

My first-grader was recently given the assignment of writing to her favorite fictional character. She picked Amelia Bedelia. While “favorite” may be a stretch– as you will soon see– I thought my seven-year-old’s questions were excellent and deserved a larger forum ....more

how far should you push your kid? finding the “optimal push”

I recently watched HBO’s documentary...more

what is the one best opportunity in your life? (and why aren’t you pursuing it?)

Like most mothers I know, I am also my household’s...more