You Don't Need New Year's Resolutions. January 1st is Just Another Day!

On the morning of January 1st,  I walked downstairs, made coffee, stood in the middle of our living room, and stared at our Christmas tree we so enthusiastically decorated the day after Thanksgiving. Are the holidays really over? Do we really have to put all of the decorations away? What are my resolutions? Why didn't I write them down this year? It's nice to see other people share their resolutions. It's great to see so many people wanting to better themselves. What's a better time to do it? After all, the prospect of a brand new year is encouraging....more

Don't Invite These Toxic People to Join You in 2015

Everyday, being a mother continues to make me feel more confident. So confident that I find it satisfying to speak my mind regarding the issues that bother me and erase each and every toxic person out of my life. Just like that. It's one issue my girlfriends with children don't know how to quite deal with: cutting all of the toxic people out of their lives. They fear that it will be interpreted as being rude. They say they don't want people to think they're being cruel and mindless....more
Alisha Mustafa Alisha, thank you so much for reading! I agree. It's quite hard to deal with the ...more

Introducing New Series: Balancing Motherhood, Working, and Relationships

A month after I gave birth, my parents returned to Turkey. Shortly after their departure, I went back to work. We came up with a way to juggle work, parenting, and relationships on our own without much outside help. At first, it was incredibly overwhelming for both of us. For many days, I felt that I was slowly drowning under life's most basic chores and responsibilities....more

Are You Ready to Sleep Train Your Baby?

There are days when I feel like I got this motherhood thing down. Like, I really got it down. On those days, I feel like nothing can stop me from conquering everything on my to-do list. Laundry? Check. Grading? Check. Lesson plans? Check. Grocery shopping? Check. Do some writing? Check. Dinner cooked? Check. Most importantly, keeping my kid happy and fed? Check and check! ...more

Do You Like Your Wine, Mama? I do, too!

My husband is in a Ph.D program working toward a degree in biomedical neuroscience. This means he's under a lot of pressure to spend endless hours in a lab conducting experiments and publish in medical journals. I teach three days a week at a respectable university in Philadelphia. I can't take on a full-time gig, because the few hours I teach, my husband stays home with our baby....more

Raising Bilingual Children?

After I gave birth, my husband, Jeremy, and I decided that he'd speak to our son in English and I'd communicate with him in Turkish. It wasn't a formal agreement, really. It's not like we sat down around the dining room table and said, we should do this. We didn't conduct an extensive research about being bilingual. We didn't set strict rules. It sort of happened. It just made sense that if our child was going to be exposed to two different cultures, he would learn to speak in two different languages. ...more

New Motherhood Is Hard Enough: Say No to Visitors

Until I had my son, it had never occurred to me that the first days, weeks, and months of being new parents would be sheer hell. I mean it. I don't envy any of you who are currently trying make it through the first two months of parenthood. It's difficult. Don't believe anyone who says otherwise. They're lying. It's beyond difficult. For us, it all started when we took our son to his first doctor's appointment. ...more
Thanks for sharing your motherhood experience, I come to know about many thing I never think on ...more

Fresh Start with a Rested Mind

Last year around this time, I couldn't see straight. TS was only a week old and life had taken a speedy turn into something my husband and I had never experienced before. During the hectic postpartum stages of being a new mom, I couldn't imagine finding a calm routine....more

Upon a Closing Door

During the fall of 2008, I was stuck with a pathetically low paying teaching job at a South Jersey community college where I taught students who couldn't spell their own names. I was also stuck in an even more pathetic marriage that I knew I shouldn't have agreed to be a part of. ...more

Advice To My Son...

My husband and I are new to parenting. Although our son was born over seven months ago, everyday is a challenge. On most days, when I wake up a few times between midnight and 5:00am for diaper changes and feedings, I have to try extra hard to remind myself that sleepless nights will pass. Soon, I will be a morning person again and wake up with a tremendous amount of energy to tackle the day's chores. I have to try extra hard to remind myself that one day I will miss waking up to my son's giggles; to see him waiting impatiently for me to pick him up and cover him with kisses....more