Change Happens When You Do

Have you already broken your new year’s resolution? Are you good at setting new goals, but can’t seem to hold on to them? As you may have found out, the real problem isn’t setting the goal or resolution, it’s… how to make it stick; make it work… this time. Research studies, year after year, have shown that less than 40 percent of people actually set goals for themselves for the new year, and of that, less than 10 percent are successful, after just three months of trying. The reason for that is you never change your behavior. ...more

Personal Development: Leadership: Before You Can Do, You Must First Be

   He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened. ~ Lao Tzo You do know that learning no longer ends when you finish school or take your last exam? As a leader, you must commit to a life time of learning. And, if you consider yourself a leader, an expert, a specialist, on or off social media, then you must know that before you lead others you must lead yourself.  Many leaders never really lead as much as they say they do, but they, of course, take credit for the good... and dish out blame for the bad.    However, sooner or later, you'll discover that leadership is more about who you are than what you do. Leadership of others begins with your internal leadership... yes, your internal leadership. You must fill up your cup before leading someone else... otherwise it'll just be the blind leading the blind. If you want to continue to grow you must continue developing yourself toward what you want to be as a human being.Living Life|With PurposeI'm talking about self-awareness.  Self-awareness provides you with the tools to achieve your goals in your personal life,  at work, with family and friends, in the community and with other social relationships.  Here are three tips to help you know yourself better and become the role model you need to be for those who look to you as a leader....more

The Inner Path: Don't Lose Yourself in A Role

  Authentic human interactions become impossible when you lose yourself in a role. ~ Eckhart Tolle If you sometimes find yourself becoming attached to what you do and the job title that you have, to such an extent that they begin to feel like part of you, as one.  Know that your title, for example, as manager, officer, teacher, parent, secretary, etc, are functions you fulfill... roles you play, they are not you. It's one thing to tell others what you do for a living by introducing yourself with your job title or social position, but it's  when you completely become that job function or title you begin playing a role.   When you think you are the roles and functions you have,  then you also think that a person with a more elevated role than yours… boss, manager or executive, is better than another role.. a janitor, bus boy or taxi driver, etc., and that creates a big problem of labeling people as anything other than human being. I am a teacher                                      I am a doctor                                                        I am a manager                                                                                       I am a wife                               But it's really when you identify with your function, to such an extent, that you lose authenticity and takes you over and becomes a role you play, that you lose sight of the fact that who you are requires no belief or validation... because you are not your job, possessions or social position....more

Dare to... Enjoy The Moment

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. Buddha ...more
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Dare to... Kiss and Make up

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. ~ Mahatma Gandhi    For some people, saying “I’m sorry” are two of the most difficult words to utter. And while we all have disagreements and arguments from time-to-time, life is too short to hold grudges. Although arguments may seem monumental at the time, they're often trivial in the grand scheme of things.  So why not take the high road... be the first to apologize.... bury the hatchet and let bygones be bygones. Kiss and make up... even if it's just you! Don't just sit there and let your pain hang on to your heart and eat away your joy. Forgiving is a way to heal YOUR own pain.  Holding a serious grudge can possibly:cause stress, which has a toxic effect on your bodyraise your blood pressureput you at risk of a stroke and heart attack trigger depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder, because of the guilt you carry....more

Dare to... Understand More, Judge Less

Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding. Albert Einstein Do you sometimes feel the judgmental parts of you constantly criticizing, sizing up, dismissing, and diminishing those around you. Outwardly, generally nice... helpful, polite, and funny, while internally not realizing just how much mental space and energy you're giving those internal judges... being bossy and mean. However, your judgment of others is an extension of self-judgment, so ingrained, so normal, you don’t even recognize it.  You may be insecure with yourself, so you put other people down, or fear those who are different from you, so you judge them just because they are unlike you,  or maybe you're seeking a change in your life, but, in turn, are jealous of the changes you see others are making in their lives. When you catch yourself having a defining thought about someone, step back and use the following tips to help transform those judgments you may have: ...more

Personal Development: Leadership as a Lifestyle

   All Leadership is influence. ~ John C. Maxwell Leadership skills are not only for your workplace, but should be used in all areas of your life. In your role at work, as a spouse, a mom, however challenging they may be, your exposure to them helps create the leader in you.  Embracing those areas of your life where you have a leadership role helps youto lead better.  Living a leadership lifestyle will set you apart from others as someone who is in charge, capable and intently driven. It puts you in a place where others watch what you do, look to you for direction and notice if your actions are in line with your beliefs.  Living Life|With Purpose  Being intentional and focus, which are, by the way, valuable traits of a leader, will not only clarify goals for those around, but inspire those you are directing, to tune into your vision... illuminating your influence. A lifestyle of leadership in your own  home alone can teach your child how his or her contributions; such as doing chores, contributing to family meetings, and participating in family activities, fit into the big picture and can lead to a lifetime of success. There are a few simple but important rules to follow when applying leadership skills  as a lifestyle, at work and in life. ...more

Personal Development: Influence You

   “Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” ~ Albert Schweitzer Instead of looking outside of yourself for influence, strive to be an influential individual. When you are influential, you have more control over your life, your finances and how you are treated, and what you say holds more weight with those who listen to you. We never know which lives we influence, or when, or why.  So, what do you need to be influential? Check out some of the traits of truly influential people and work on getting the following characteristics of influential people for yourself. Walking in self confidenceis a virtue for an influencer.  They know what they want and do not hesitate when it's decision time. There is no doubt in them about their capabilities because they know that they can handle anything life throws at them.  ...more

The Inner Path: No To The Ego

“The moment you become aware of the ego in you, it is strictly speaking no longer the ego, but just an old, conditioned mind-pattern. Ego implies unawareness. Awareness and ego cannot coexist.” ― Eckhart Tolle  The ego is a powerful thing. So many people have been snared by this conceptual element and don't even know it. The ego disguises itself as... you.  A conception your identity in a physical form.  Elements of the outside world and of personal experiences are mostly repressed by the ego... that's a problem.  The ego comes out as your character for all to see, not always seen asan overinflated sense of self.  It canturn up in feelings of inferiority or self-hatred also, because ego is any image you have of yourself that gives you a sense of identity.   That identity derives from the things you tell yourself and the things other people have been saying about you that you've decided to accept as truth. Yes, and that's why it's important for you to let go of the ego and be you. The ego is a protective and guarded shell for you, not protecting you, but separating you.  It's a barrier, cutting you off from other people and the outside world.  Separating you... from you.  ...more

The Inner Path: When Sunday Comes

 http:/thelifeandstuff.blogspot.comWhen Sunday comes and you get ready to rejuvenate your spirit by going to church to draw near to God with a sincere heart, be aware that people don't all go there for the purpose of meeting with God, or for the purpose of listening to messages that would impart their lives positively. There are many reasons why people go to church, some go in order to follow God's directives and to worship him in holiness. Others go for their own selfish motives, just to please themselves; not minding what God thinks of them. Now, why you're pondering the reason you go to church, here are just some reasons people go to church: To genuinely seek God: There are genuine seekers of God who come to the church because they feel that it's the right place to meet with God. They come with contrite hearts... ready to do whatever would bring them into a better fellowship with Him. They listen to what the pastor says, compare it with the scripture, and allow it to impart their lives positively. Their primary reason for being there is because they need a change in their lives. These are the true followers/worshipers of God....more