I Heart Girls Who Rock Guitars

I love music. Who doesn't?...more

Your post makes me think of my idol Dave Matheson's song more

Internalized Homophobia is Just Heteronormativity in a Big Gay Package

A few months ago, we spent an evening babysitting our good friends' five and seven year old children. They're great kids, and as usual we enjoyed spending time with them; we played games, we fed them junk food, we read them books, we let them stay up pasted their bed time....fun was had by all. But unlike any of the other times we've babysat for them, that last time was a bit of an eyeopener. That evening, we got a glimpse at just how deep the tendrils of heteronormativity reach....more

Developmentally, most children don't process abstract thoughts until pre-adolescence / ...more

How Could You Not Know You're Gay?

Last week's big news in the world of gay, and in most worlds not gay too, was Meredith Baxter publicly coming out. And come out, she did. She was on The Today Show, in The Advocate, in People, the blogs were ablaze...the story was everywhere.The amount of attention the story got was crazy and interesting....more
Thank you for writing this. I'm 27 and just figured it out and you're right, everything feels ...more

Uganda's Anti Homosexuality Bill Should Be Called Homosexuality Eradication Bill

One of the best things about going on a cruise, was being completely cut off from outside communication. No phones, no Internet, and no news (in whatever format(s) you use to stay informed) for the duration of the trip. Or, at least for the time spent out of US cell plan range. Which, really, was from the time the boat left the dock, until the day we returned. Hey, at 75 cents (or more) a minute, there just wasn't anything so important that couldn't wait until we were back from vacation. Sure, I could have stayed up to date by watching CNN, but who does that when they're on vacation? ...more

to think of what may happen in Uganda. But, you are right about the freedom we have in the ...more

Do You Gaycation?

And by gaycation I mean, when you reach your destination you will be surrounded by gaymos, en masse. And for my want, lesbians as far as the eye can see. Gorgeous women of all shapes, sizes and walks of life. Saturated in teh gay; lesbian movies, lesbian music/musicians, lesbian comedians, celesbians. You know, gaycations. Gay vacation, like; Dinah Shore Weekend, Michigan Womyn's Music Festival, Women's Week at Provincetown, a lesbian week at a resort, a lesbian cruise...travel designed with the gay gal in mind....more

Unfortunately, my partner and I haven't been able to coordinate our time off at the same ...more

Gold Stars, Silver Stars, Lucky Stars

So a funny thing happened on the way to this blog post. I was going to write about... well I wasn't sure what I was going to write about, but I had few ideas I was researching. And then I got distracted by shiny things." Gold Stars" to be exact....more

Sunday, October 11th Is National Coming Out Day. It's a Day for Everyone.

It seems like it's just been a few weeks since I last wrote about National Coming Out Day, and yet it's been a year. Crazy, I know. But, here we are. It's almost October 11th, National Coming Out Day (NCOD), again. Where does time go?...more

Florida Federal Court Dismisses Lawsuit of Lesbian Denied Information About and Visitation with Dying Partner in ER

I hesitate to write another post about gay marriage rights, especially since I just wrote a Respect for Marriage/Down with DOMA post last week. And, I've written 2 or 3, or 10, or more other marriage posts here at BlogHer in last year and half. I fear that if I keep writing about it over and over again, it will start to become background noise, and people will tune out. Stop reading. But then life happens, and courts make rulings, and I get so frustrated that I can't not write about it....more
This breaks my heart....just breaks it.more

Respect for Marriage Act introduced in the House

Last week, Rep. Jerrold Nadler (D-NY), along with 90 cosponsors, introduced H.R. 3567 in the House of Representatives. The purpose of H.R. 3567, called the Respect for Marriage Act of 2009 (RMA), is to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which was signed into law in 1996 by President Clinton. At the time DOMA became law, there were no states in which same-sex marriage was legal. ...more

There's no time like the present. I wrote.

I think DOMA has done more in respect to ...more

That's So Gay

How is it, that phrases like "that's so gay," or "don't be so gay" are still thriving in teen vernacular? Why is it socially acceptable to say such things? How can so many people defend the usage of such words as harmless? Why don't more people find it offensive? And where are these kids' parents? ...more