The Story of a Little Boy: The Living Death

A little 6 year old boy has two sisters that are so much older they are like second moms….a horrible unnecessarily hostile and highly litigated divorce unfolds and those sisters chose only to interact with their brother dependent upon court ordered communication with their dad, who one calls Peter instead of dad.  In an age where communication is so easy people can even accidentally communicate, these sisters elected to not communicate with their little brother independently…the little boy learned to miss his sisters....more

But there will always be those who judge us from where we parted, not looking for where we are in the distance.

Where I am and who I am is the totality of where I've been and who I was. Those in my past do not know me though, I am not there anymore. But there will always be those who judge me from where we parted, not looking for where I am in the distance.My life is so different than what I knew before Jason that if feels like I’m living an entirely different life. Where before I knew despair, emptiness, loneliness, helplessness, hopelessness, self-loathing, now I know intimacy so deep it heals me from my core. I never knew I could love and be loved so completely....more

Validated. Finally!!

All of those hours in court, phone, text, emails, money, time......more

Happily Ever After

I can't wait to spend every day with Jason; a team working side by side. In this past year, he has been loving, patient, kind. He looks at me as if he's seeing me for the first time every lovingly. When I walk in the room, no matter what I really look like, he comments that here comes his gorgeous wife. He tells me constantly I am smart and beautiful; the most beautiful woman he's ever laid eyes on. He tells me I am his soul mate and life partner. He validates me, encourages me, helps me, is proud of the littlest things, and forgives me without reserve or reminder....more

Negotiating with a Sociopath: The Submission Principle

“Death doesn’t come until the end of my guests’ visits here, after I’ve grown weary of them. It’s always so fascinating to see their disappointment.” “Disappointment?” “Exactly. Disappointment. They imagine that if they please me, they’ll live. They adapt to my rules. They start to trust me and develop a certain camaraderie with me, hoping to the very end that this camaraderie means something. The disappointment comes when it finally dawns on them that they’ve been well and truly screwed....” “You see. You’ve already started to adapt to the submission principle....more

You Might Be Married to A Sociopath If.....

If you'd like to read my story please go to As you think back you cannot recall your partner ever accepting responsibility (i.e. broken relationships, jobs, financial hardship, or even a broken down car)....more

I Married A Sociopath: Living with PTSD

To read my complete blog: I have had my son on a full time basis, with thanks, for over 6 months and have continued to pay Peter child support. Part of my support is for day care services, and working over full time I need after school care; technically I have been paying double for the 6 months....more

The Sociopath: I thought it was normal to wonder when my husband would kill me

I'd love for you to read my story at my blog site: ….and I would have thought I deserved it and that my family would be better off without me anyway. I know he wanted to kill me because we would talk about it. I know exactly how he wanted to do it: he would strangle me to feel his power over me and my life. Why in the world did I think that was normal? That desire in him has only increased; I’ve seen it in his eyes....more

Living With My Worst Fears: The Custody Battle

To read my entire blog about my 20 year marriage to a sociopath: So began my new existence. Once or twice every month I would spend an entire Friday in court, waiting to have Peter’s latest motion heard. The motions were meant to humiliate me, break me, and defeat me. Much of the content was completely unnecessary....more

Guilt and Shame: The Vicious and Escalating Cycle

To read my complete blog: I left childhood with a great deal of guilt and shame. I was abused as a child and my experience never validated. Adults involved decided to handle things within the family and not expose the perpetrators, though they abused me and my female cousins in much the same way. The situation and the aftermath were handled despicably....more