1628 Likes and Why I am Shutting Down My Blog's Facebook Page

At the beginning of this year, I created a public Facebook page for my blog, Schmutzie.com. I did it because I wanted to create a more private personal profile so I could have at least one place online that felt less public, a little more sheltered. It wasn't long, though, before I started to regret that decision, because I realized that privacy on Facebook is harder to maintain than it seems, real engagement is difficult to come by on public pages, and Facebook's treatment of public pages has been undergoing a slow evolution that favours advertising money over content and engagement. ...more
AudelizAngiePerez I'm not overlooking that at all. I specifically mentioned that I was speaking ...more

17 Untruths Parents Believe About Non-Parents

1. Non-parents get to go to bed late and sleep in like parents used to before they had children.I do wish this were true, but it's not. Age, stress, and ill health are sleep-stealers, too, and I am lucky if I get four or five uninterrupted hours of sleep on any given night. In fact, I can't remember when I last did that. ...more

Being Afraid: We Are More Than Our Fears

I have been living with a lot of fear lately. I know I gave a whole talk on self-doubt and how to move through it so you can be greater than you know, but I'm still a huge fraidy cat, because so much of life looms so large. Some of it looms large and ugly, but even the parts that loom large and glorious are scary. I know I'm not the only one who feels this....more
So happy to hear about all the projects you have going! Fear is always with me. But when someone ...more

5 Truths About Blog Comments and Why Quality Content Is Still King

I have been blogging for over nine years now, and I've watched it grow from small groups of what felt like dear penpals to the vast, millions-strong sea of blogs we have now. What I find interesting, though, is that, despite all the changes that have happened with regard to weblogs over the last decade, certain questions about what we do come up again and again, and one of those questions is this: what is more important to you, writing well or receiving a lot of comments? ...more
This post is spot on!  And it has taken me years to understand this!  What I wouldn't give to ...more

My BlogHer '10 Business Cards, and What You Should Think About When Designing Yours

[Editor's Note: While this post references BlogHer '10, the advice about creating effective business cards is still top notch. I thought for those of you preparing for BlogHer '11 this post could serve as a great support to your experience. Thus, no worries - it is STILL 2011 and BlogHer '11 is in San Diego regardless of what references are made within the post. Enjoy! -PaulaG] ...more
I live in beautiful Palm Beach County, Florida.  I am a Training Instructor in Employee ...more

Why I Made A Kid-Free List On Twitter (And What Happened When I Did)

Creating my kid-free list seemed innocent enough to me at the time. I tend to swim in a sea that seems primarily comprised of mommybloggers and daddybloggers, and I was suddenly possessed of the urge to find and collect those out there who fit my particular demographic: people over 30 who do not have children. I intended nothing political by or pre-supposing about it. I simply had the very human desire to see myself reflected out in the world. ...more
I have noticed that most people seem to be incapable of handling differences of opinion.  ...more

Bigotry, Rape Apologism, and Baby Theft: WTF, Patriarchy?

Some weeks, the news just doesn't get any better, and this week is no exception when it comes to gross misconduct and contravention of human rights. Here are a few gems to put in your WTF file. ...more

I think women/moms would make every effort to have kept the baby and the mother together while ...more

Drug Prohibition, Accessibility, and Addiction: This Former Addict Says Yes to Legalization

Once upon a time until about two-and-a-half months ago when I admitted publicly to my alcoholism and embraced sobriety, I drank so much on a regular basis that I blacked out two or three times a week and couldn't remember how I came home. So, what I am about to reveal here with regard to my thoughts on drugs, accessibility, and legalization might surprise you: I support the legalization of all drugs, or, at the very least, the decriminalization of possession and personal use. ...more
Decriminalize all personal use, legalize marijuana on a federal level for medical use, ...more

The 40-Day Inner Mean Girl Cleanse: How It Tangled With My Outer Bitch and Lost

I have a long history of negative self-talk, and, although I have been less harsh with myself in recent years, I still manage to be my own worst bully. So, when I came across The 40-Day Inner Mean Girl Cleanse one afternoon in late August, a six-week course hosted by co-creators Amy Ahlers and Christine Arylo, I thought it was probably a good idea to join up. My very recent commitment to sobriety, thoughts about positive personal revolution, and a strong desire to be kinder to myself made this seem like the right step to take. ...more

Okay, if that load of horse crap didn't drive you to drink, you're well on your way to ...more

How to Write (Better): 12 Steps for Writing a How-To Article

Writing a good how-to article is harder than most people think. I know this, because most of the how-to articles I come across on the internet are down-right terrible. They often assume a level of expertise that the reader does not possess or neglect to mention entire steps that would get the reader from step three to step four without causing them to rip out handfuls of hair. My how-tos, though, are quite fantastic, and I am here to tell you how to do it, so that when you decide to share your knowledge with the world, you can do it better than everyone else. ...more
You've made some good practical tips here and I'm going to add at least 2 of them to my How tos. ...more