There is nothing more rhythmic, more insistent of a schedule than farm animals. For someone who has often rejected the authority of set schedules, it is a refreshing and interesting experience to be forced into one. Every morning, every evening, bleating, quacking, whinnying calls echo across the lawn reminding the humans of our obligations ....more


A question: "Why do I write about how my kids are doing? Is it invasion of privacy?" And it's a fair question one being asked by adoptees who grew up and who worry about adoptive families writing about their experiences, for good reason.I wanted to clarify a few things, in part to help me stick to my message.This is not an adoption blog. This is a mom/family/health food/farming/home schooling/social racial justice/special needs parenting/trauma/adoption ethics blog.I often tell my children about my blog posts, especially when it is about them ....more

light in the dark

Today the rain is punctuating a chronic sense of failing one of the kiddos. It's a terrible thing; knowing that I do not seem to be the stuff this child needs, and that incremental changes and prayers and trying and soul searching and do-overs still leave me wholly unfit, it seems. It's a rotten realization especially when I feel confident I am not royally screwing up for the other ones ....more

What Home school Looks Like Right Now

Right now home school is reading surrounded by therapy animals and constant snacks.Right now it is three chapter books a month (at least).Right now it is catching up and chilling outRight now it is silliness interspersed with fighting and tantrumsRight now it is art time and piano lessonsRight now it is big kids playing games with little kids, nurturing in both directionsRight now it's games to help focus while listening to lectures (every time you hear a key word, take a snack from the designated word bowl!) Right now it is math, for all of them, even "the babies." Right now the mother and the kitty keep reading, because sanity is my bookgroup of brilliant compassionate friends, and adult brain cells and learning about North KoreaAnd finally, home school right now means riding. A lot of horse riding. (Cookie volunteers on the crossties for grooming practice.) ...more

Insights and Miracles

ALL SET Motherhood, or is it adulthood? as turned me into an introvert, which I never saw coming. I've spent the majority of my life as a people person, loving planning get togethers and having dozens and dozens of friends that I'd call close ....more

Home Schooling Educational Plans (Or: Why I am not Blogging Right now)

I've done the improbable. I have not left room in my week for blogging. I am writing, my (possibly awful) novel, a few children's book manuscripts (that I worry less about being awful) and researching the science of trying to send your writing to literary agents ....more

Scooping Them Up


Going Divergent on the Ending

Two weeks ago I read (devoured) the Divergent trilogy. I stayed up a few nights in a row, read them back to back, and it did my brain and body about as much good as eating a few dozen Snickers in the 10pm-3am time slot. I never am satisfied with YA lit, and yet I found myself bingeing, drooling for more, and hating myself for it the entire way through ....more

Getting Around To It

EVENING OUTTonight six year old Cookie came upstairs while the children were watching a movie and informed me that he thought the material wasn't child friendly, a little too intense, and he was worried about his younger brother Tsega being down there watching it.When I tucked him into bed later and he insisted, like every night, kissing both my cheeks and then one firmly planted on my lips (please let this keep happening for as long as possible) I whispered to him Thank you for telling when something you saw made you nervous and uncomfortable. That is such a brave good thing. Will you always always tell me when you notice something that isn't right or you're worried about what you're watching? ...more

The Dance

I was recently accused of being mentally ill for taking on all we have in the last month, new goats, new dog, new horse. No doubt, it has required a lot of adjustment. A lot of chores ....more