The Unexplained

Recently [this post has been sitting as a draft for some time but that doesn't really matter since this topic recurs on a regular basis] there was a discussion in the IF corner of the Twitterverse about whether it is better or worse to have an explanation for your infertility. This is an old topic that surfaces every now again - usually when someone who has unexplained (or not well-explained) infertility decides to stop treatments. She knows that stopping is the right choice for her but she still doesn't know WHY fertility treatments didn't work....more

Thoughts On Empathy

I think I have always been fairly empathic. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to imagine how I might feel if something bad happened to me. So whenever I saw bad things happening to others I was capable of empathy. However....more

Facts About Pregnancy

The recent Facebook and blog fad of posting facts about your pregnancy experience really rankled me. In part because I felt like I was being excluded from playing a game. Even though I really didn't care that much about playing it. Tell me I can't do something and I will respond in predictable fashion by wanting nothing more than to prove you wrong....more

12 Facts About My [Ectopic] Pregnancy

I have yet to see this on Facebook (apparently my friends are more concerned with Nelson Mandela's death and rightly so) but I've been hearing about it ALL day. And from multiple sources. Then I found some blogs on it. It seems women all over are posting about their pregnancy experiences - things like I gained 41 pounds or I had wicked heartburn....more

An Open Letter To All Pro-Choice Organizations

Dear NARAL, NOW, Planned Parenthood, RH Reality Check and any and all people and entities who are pro-choice,I am infertile. I want nothing more than to have a child. Wait. There might be one thing I want more than a child - I want the government to stay out of my uterus. Well, if I still had one I'd want them out of it.You may be surprised to learn that most of us who can't have children (or have lots of difficulty doing so) are NOT in favor of banning abortions so there will be more babies available to adopt. No. Simply...NO....more

Confession Time

I have a confession to make. I suspect I will get some flak for it. Well-meant flak, but flak nonetheless. I will just offer this disclaimer: this is how I FEEL. And there are no right or wrong feelings.So here goes: I have never felt like a true member of the Endometriosis Club. Endo and I have an extremely complex relationship. In the words of Iñigo Montoya, let me esplain....more

Fuck Uterus

Today's NaBloPoMo writing prompt is: If you could quit one bad habit instantly without difficulty, which would it be?I am going rogue today because this arrived in the mail today. And it needed to be posted....more

The Importance Of Being Earnest

Today's NaBloPoMo writing prompt is: What is your favourite hour of the day?You know what? Let's not.These prompts can be helpful. Most of them are so far off topic from what I usually write about. That's both a good and a bad thing. Good in that it pushes me to branch out, bad in that I think I just end up with throw away posts that no one wants to read. Which is why I don't typically post every day in the first place. I prefer to write about things that actually inspire me. And, to be honest, this one just doesn't....more

Refrigerator Elves

Today's NaBloPoMo writing prompt is: Name five things inside your refrigerator right now and how you feel about them.Um...how truthful should I be here? I'm pretty sure there is at least one item in my fridge that has achieved independent life and should be given a name. Like Maurice. OK, I confess...there's probably more than one. Let me go look.It seems the man brought home a pork tenderloin (1) and some filet mignon (2) tonight. I must say I'm pretty happy about that....more

Hit It

As a movie buff, I like this prompt. :-)Today's NaBloPoMo writing prompt is: If you had to be trapped inside a movie for 5 days, which movie would you pick?Answer: The Blues Brothers...more