The Messy Middle

Yesterday, I was reading Buddha's Brain by Rick Hanssen, and I was struck by his description of the stages of learning. He defined them as unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious incompetence.It reminded me of Harry Wong's stages of classroom management that I wrote about in my posts on surviving and experiencing mastery as a parent. But, as usually happens with ideas, I spiralled deeper into it this time.Unconscious incompetence ....more

"Why isn't radical acceptance fixing me?" and other silly thoughts about self care

So lately, the universe seems to be throwing mindfulness in my face from all directions. And I am doing my best to catch it, but sometimes I instead get hit in the face.I've been watching the free online mindfulness summit this month and it's fantastic. In one of the talks, though- okay, in a lot of them - the speaker said, But you can't be mindful of a thought and be trying to get rid of it ....more


I'm not a huge fan of socks. Or shoes for that matter. If I could go straight from flip flop season to Ugg season, I would be content.But fall insists on happening every year.Since I am an adult, I can suck it up and put on some socks and shoes every day for a few months each year ....more

Anne Lamott told me to write about school lunches and this is what happened.

The lunches my mom packed always had a treat along with the sandwich and fruit. At school, I liked different things from time to time, but that one summer at YMCA daycamp, it had to be chips.We sat in a circle. We ate outside, in the grass, under a tree ....more


I have a scrolling problem. I wake up in the morning and I start scrolling. I scroll through Facebook then Instagram, sometimes a deal blog or two, then usually open Facebook again ....more


I am curled up on my couch in my pajamas with both of my kids lying on top of me and a stuffed Piglet on my chest. We are watching sesame street and I am mindlessly scrolling my fb feed.I'm not okay.It's probably confusing to a lot of people because it's pretty much the same way I look when I am okay. Because I'm sure there are a lot of people who think it sounds divine ....more

Are bad guys real?

"Mommy," says BG ...more


It's a trait I see and admire so, in other people.Your grace, your courage, your vulnerability.But I'm just a mess,...more


"First you want to color the J and the jellyfish," our beloved children's librarian had instructed. "Then you can glue it to your paper. ...more


You know what would be great sometimes? If we could have a parenting co-op where we could take turns putting each other's kids to bed.Because God knows our kids would never treat other moms the way they treat us.But seriously, what would be amazing about this would be that when we said "omg, you will never believe..." And our friends said "I know," we would believe them. Really believe them ....more