I'm Angry About ADHD's Impact on My Family & That's Okay for Now

No one seems to admit it, but here I am. I'm angry that two out of three people in my family have ADHD. I'm not one of them. I'm still adjusting to the 5-month-old diagnosis of both my husband and daughter, and I know I'll get over this hump. I'm hating it right now. I'm angry. Annoyed. Didn't expect to be so thrown by it....more
Welcome to the club! I empathize with you, however, because you don't understand it. ADHD is ...more

Having my own "play" time and not living through my child

So I started playing tennis again. And as I played, I couldn’t believe how much it meant to me. Because I was truly having unadulterated fun: a feeling I think I tend to deprive myself of. Oh, and my nine-year-old daughter felt relieved. Here’s the story. After occasionally playing for the past 25 years and previously playing for my high school team, I finally decided to get back in the game. I signed up for a weekly doubles clinic, and you couldn’t wipe the smile off my face the whole time I played...which must have been super annoying to the other players for an hour and a half....more

what a great post. i've been wanting to get back into soccer lately. when i was at my nephew's ...more

Am I a better mom now?

Am I a better parent by not working right now? I say "right now" because I quit my job a little over a month ago to take a midlife sabbatical. Now, I seem to have more energy to focus on parenting than when I was working. I'm not saying it's helicopter mom time; quite the opposite. I'm just more relaxed. I find myself with more energy to discipline my daughter, which has been my major parenting shortfall. My 9-year old daughter's not an easy daughter to raise (not that any child is); importantly, I'm not an easygoing, mothering-comes-easy to me type mom....more

I HATE THAT LIFE’S NOT FAIR, and what I’m going to do about it.

I don’t handle not getting my way too well. I know I’m supposed to be an adult about it. Plus I’m a parent, and I need to set an example for my child. But when I don’t get my way, I suffer from simmering anger, I give the cold shoulder or I hand out heaps of condescension to whoever I’m mad at.  I sometimes boil over with frustration.  Why? “IT’S NOT FAIR” says my childish reaction, repeating itself over and over in my head like a broken record. I admit it. I still HATE life isn’t fair....more

Prioritizing having fun - can I do it without feeling selfish?

My cousin said to me Sunday about my midlife sabbatical from working: “If I were you, I’d just have fun and do stuff you haven’t been able to do all these past years.” It hit a chord. I’d been prioritizing volunteering for charities as my next step. I’ve been feeling a need to “do good” for a long time. But I’d also been depriving myself of pursuing having fun for myself. Why? Do a lot of moms do this? All I know is I’ve been putting my daughter, family, and job’s needs above my own for a long time. But I immediately I heard conflict in my head. It felt self-centered....more

ain't nobody happy, right? :)

Seriously, though, I think it's vital that everyone has time ...more

My midlife sabbatical: the first steps are the hardest (I hope)

This first week has been a mixed bag.For the first time in over 9 years since my daughter was born, I had time for me. Freedom! Before, I put everyone else's needs first. Interestingly, now I felt overwhelmed with choices from my "to do" list. I avoided taking action, since what I REALLY needed to do first was put my "house" in order. Like taking medicine you know is good for you.  Plus, I needed to prioritize. Finally, I dived in today and did two things I haven’t done in years: I cooked, and worked out. Despite being cooking-phobic....more

I have been dealing with menopause for a couple of years now, and I have lost much enthusiasm ...more

My midlife sabbatical: DAY 1

Why start writing today? Because -  right now - I’m about to take a huge risk and hopefully change the course of my life. I just quit my job to take what I'm calling a midlife sabbatical. I'm veering off the planned  "path" that Corporate America sucks you into. And I'm scared. So why did I quit? I'm burnt out, work-wise. My husband had open-heart surgery eight months ago and I decided life is just too short to stay on the same path that is no longer making me happy. The balance of life turned on me in some way....more

So glad to read your post. I just posted about the same thing! Your post makes me feel less ...more