Tapping Your “Inner Mentor” to Create New Meaning in Your Life

Sooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer. As a therapist I watch many of my clients pass through stages of personal growth. Once they work through the issues that have held them back, they often begin to ask...“What now?”—which prompts a desire to search for meaning. “It isn’t until you come to a spiritual understanding of who you are,” said Oprah Winfrey, “not necessarily a religious feeling, but deep down, the spirit within—that you can begin to take control.” ...more

Dr. Romance on Self-Reliance and Independence

"As the price of liberty is vigilance -- so the price of independence is self-determination, the price of dignity is self-assertion, and the price of respect is self-respect," wrote psychiatrist Dr. Thomas Szasz....more

Dr. Romance's Newest Ebook: The Real 13th Step

Dr. Romance announces The Real 13th Step:Discovering Confidence, Self-Reliance, and Independence Beyond the Twelve-Step ProgramsDear readers:...more

Learning Forgiveness

Learning to forgive those who hurt us is an essential life skill, because it helps develop inner maturity, frees us from emotional bondage to the other person, and helps us develop the power to move on. Forgiveness begins with learning to forgive yourself for any damage you may have done to yourself and others with destructive habits and for allowing others (beginning with your family, and including later adult relationships) to be unkind or abusive to you or take advantage of or disrespect you....more

Dear Dr. Romance: I am very confused and disillusioned

Dear Dr. Romance:I am a youthful and attractive woman, mid-fifties, who is so confused about online and ads for meeting men. i have been wounded by these men who, after some meetings with them and being promised by THEM that they want to take me for dinner within a few days,they set the time etc. and then BOOM, never do i hear from them again. also, even before meeting them, just via the phone, they ask me how thin i am, what my pension is, if i will have one and the like....more

Dear Dr. Romance: Everyone Thinks all truck drivers are perverts

Dear Dr. Romance:I'm in my forties, divorced, and debt free. I have a great credit score. My favorite hobby is Amatuer Radio. Other hobbies are listening to shortwave radio programs and studying maps.The down side is that I'm currently a truckdriver. Naturally, everyone thinks that ALL truckdrivers are perverts. Worng answer! Are all female bosses yuppies or control freaks?I think I'm a catch, but I'm having a difficult time meeting people.  Bars aren't working, and church doesn't seem to, either. ...more

Dr. Romance: You Are a Gift

Dr. Romance writes: Each of us is individual, special and different for a reason: You are a gift to the planet.Anthropology tells us we are different because we survive better that way – the recombining of genes in sexual reproduction makes us a stronger species than cloning would....more

Dear Dr. Romance: Everyone has been trying to reunite me with my exes.

Dear Dr. Romance:EVERYONE, yes EVERYONE has been TRYING and FAILING at having me reunite with one of my exes…or Something like that. My asinine brother took out pictures of my ex-husband of 9 years and started guilt-tripping me. The funny thing is this: I remained on good terms with ALL of my exes for reasons. I have NO Interest in running into anyone who I shared even a short period of my life with and having drama. It serves no good. Hence…the good term theory....more

Guidelines for Being Better Understood

1. Seek first to understand. If you know your partner's frame of reference, you can speak to him/her within it. 2. Pay attention to how your words are landing. If your companion's response looks off the mark for what you said, check out what he/she is hearing.... 3. Focus on the solution that would work for everyone, rather than who's right or wrong. Only focus on the problem long enough to understand, then switch to what will fix it. ...more