Handling Anxiety Effectively

We are all in a time of high stress, and national disasters often bring up fear. If these fears are not dealt with, they can lead to “acting out” behavior, such as drinking too much or creating relationship, work or money problems as a distraction. To avoid these kinds of problems, follow these simple steps for resolving your fear and anxiety. ...more

Dear Dr. Romance: I am somewhat leery of another romance

Dear Dr. Romance:My last romantic relationship (that I thought was mutual) ended because she said one day out of the blue, "I don't love you any more." I think she never really did, but rather I was her crutch after her lastbreakup. I loved her wholly, with all my everything, however she did not do the same. That, of course, hurt....more

Dear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy

Dear Dr. Romance:I'm really confused about a guy I know online from a social site, he's ten years older than I am. We've been in contact for several months.  We now live in different countries.  Recently, our chatting got intense and he told me that he likes me.    We planned to meet up in another country.  But he was suddenly never online and never contacted me even by email. I was really devastated....more

How to Cope with the Loss of a Friend

I was recently sitting in my favorite coffee shop, and remembering my dear friend who used to meet me there and who died not long ago. As I get older, I’m experiencing more and more loss, and so are my friends of a similar age. Those of us who survive loss still have to “keep calm and carry on” as they say. So I thought you might appreciate some help with how to cope....more

Apology and Forgiveness

In my clinical experience, I've encountered many clients who are afraid to admit they’re wrong. This comes from a culture of blaming and accusing—where one's early family may have picked a “culprit” when something went wrong, and focused on blame, rather than on fixing the problem and healing the hurt. People with such experiences approach every situation as if they're on trial, and they compulsively try to convince everyone they're not guilty. They have no patterns to follow for apology and forgiveness. ...more

Technology and Love

Technology can have a big impact on relationships. In my counseling office, I see many couples who are struggling over Internet and social media issues. The ability to work at home via computer and smart phone can mean arguing about how work spills over and absorbs relationship time. Secrets that cause friction can come out on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social media sites. Online gaming, porn and gambling can become addictive, and ravage families. ...more

Dear Dr. Romance: I am allowing my narcissistic ex to run circles around me

Dear Dr. RomanceI am mindful that I am allowing my soon to be controlling, narcissist ex ( civil law attorney) to run circles around me, just as we did when we were married. After attending a divorce group session at my local church, they recommend that I set up some specific boundaries and rules of engagement with him. He texts me hours a day, while I'm trying to work.  Do you have anything in your arsenal to send me to get this jumpstarted?...more

Do Your Expectations Line Up with Reality?

I have written in this column recently about emotional hygiene and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, and give yourself an attitude adjustment whenever you want to? ...more