When The Coin Has Two Heads: Why I Stayed In My Abusive Relationship

I’m going to begin this blog with a trigger warning for talk of domestic violence and abuse....more

Don’t Read His Post If You Hate Fatphobia, Says Wil Wheaton

I support health at every size. I support doing what you personally have to do to feel good in your skin, and in your body. And if that means weight loss, then it means weight loss—in a healthy way that works for you, not by super-restrictive diets and starvation. So, Wil Wheaton, who recently mentioned that he was working on getting healthier and wanted to share that with his fans, has my full support. I totally think it's great he wants to be healthier. ...more
Disclaimer: I am roughly 55 lbs. overwieght - morbidly obese by standard medical doctrine but my ...more

The Death of Robin Williams, And What Suicide Isn't

I was coming home from a long day of working when I saw the news on Twitter. Today, probably sometime this morning, Robin Williams, beloved American actor, passed away in his California home. The coroner suspects that he committed suicide, probably from asphyxiation. ...more
CraigDickinson  Thank you for sharing your personal writing. Those who have never suffered from ...more

Things I Wish You Knew About My Mental Illness

This one goes out to the naysayers, the ones who insist that mental illness is "all in your head," that it can be "snapped out of." This one goes out to the people who can't fathom the darkness and can't understand the internal pain. Here are the things I wish you knew about mental illness. Here are the things I wish you knew about me and people like me, because we walk the streets beside you. We sit beside you in the subway. And we're your friends and family members....more
#StopTheStigma   Gracias for sharing, for being so honest and eloquent on a subject we want to ...more

Dear Baby (Wherever You Are)

Dear baby, Over the years, your face has changed—not just from the sweet rounded cheeks of a newborn to the angular face of a seven-year-old, but from face to face, of all the babies I have been privileged to know and hold. Your eyes have been blue, brown, green, grey. Your skin tone has ranged from dark to light. And the hair that I’ve buried my nose in while I rock you back and forth after bad dreams has changed from curly and soft to wiry to finest spun cornsilk. ...more

But Why Do You Care So Much? Combatting a "Victimizing" Culture

I bought a new dress yesterday at one of my favourite stores (who, incidentally, has decreased their plus-size section a rant for another day). I have trouble buying dresses because I’m short and fat, and a lot of them are too long, or too tight/loose in the wrong places, or look like bags on me. But somehow, this pretty little sundress ended up being the magical dress that looked really good on me, so I snapped it up.I was proudly wearing my dress today when a male coworker came up to me, unsolicited, looked me up and down, and said, “You look pregnant.”...more

A Woman, Phenomenally: What Maya Angelou Taught Me

There’s an accusation, especially recently in our culture, about people who fight for social justice. We’re accused of perpetuating a victim mentality. People mistake our stories and our experiences for manifestations of victimhood. We’re told not to wallow. We’re told to rise above, and in many cases, to put aside and forget our experiences almost as if they don’t matter at all.In times when I am accused of these things, I like to remember Maya Angelou....more
I join you in being inspired by Maya Angelou. Thank you for this testimonial. I am a survivor of ...more

Elliot Rodger Is Not The Only Man Who Wants To Kill Women

Elliot Rodger, the 22-year-old man who shot up a sorority house in California this week, killed and injured a number of young women because he believed they owed him sex and admiration. He believed in and was wholly part of the men's rights movement—a community that is growing larger as the voices of feminists are growing. It’s frightening and it needs to be known. And the #YesAllWomen Twitter hashtag is giving women a place to tell their stories. ...more
Thank you for writing this.  More women need to be aware of the extent of the manosphere's ...more

Sacrifice on Good Friday: Finding Meaning As An Agnostic

I was having a conversation with one of my coworkers yesterday about religion. He’s Jewish, and this week, he is celebrating Passover. As we stood in the dusty warehouse, with the shafts of light illuminating the dust from high above, he told me that for him, it’s not about religion. It’s about tradition. It’s about remembering where he came from and why he celebrates....more

All I Want Is To Be Your Harbour: Community Online

One of the things that I love best about our new online-based world is that I never feel alone. And for an introvert, who often likes being alone, that can be sometimes overwhelming. Like the real world, the online world can be too much. But as a rule, my online world has treated me well. It’s more than a couple of social networks – it’s an entire community, there day and night, just like a real community is....more