Down w/ Locker Room Banter.

This post is shamelessly inspired by TW’s post on FB about something her daughter said, but it’s been on my mind since last week. It’s easy to say that what Donald Trump said in that Access Hollywood tape was vile – especially when he claims it’s locker room banter. But the issue is that the more we talk about how it isn’t locker room banter, we ignore what men do talk about in spaces where they feel like they can say whatever is on their mind ....more

The Vlog is BACK!

Well, after a long gap in vlogging (I really was having a hard time getting over the cancellation of Agent Carter) – the Vlog is back! I’m doing another #WhitneyWatches video, but this time I’m taking on my biggest challenge yet – Season Two of Supergirl! This video’s mostly about the new additions and what changes switching to the CW has brought ....more

Biphobia and some really shitty timing.

I’m out. I’m bi. I am fortunate enough to be in a position where I can be more or less out in all of my life ....more

Trauma. Recovery is A Never-Ending Fight.

Last night, I had a weird freak-out. It’s all related to The Tape. While TheBoy still has The Thief in his life, I’m shielded from him – there’s no direct conversation with me ....more

I’m Tired.

This is a big weekend. Lots of people remembering 9/11 with a solemnity and fervor that I simply can’t muster any more. I won’t ever forget it, but I can’t dwell on it ....more

TRAILER: HIDDEN FIGURES (and raising a kid who asks tough questions)

So one of the downsides to raising socially aware children is that they’re going to ask you uncomfortable questions. The Oldest Kidlet is going through a massive space phase (though I get the inkling that this isn’t a face, but a calling). Where I wanted to be an astronaut at his age, he wants to put people in space ....more

When “Mad Love” is Abuse.

Confession: I haven’t seen Suicide Squad yet. I was at a conference last weekend, and work’s been crazy busy. But what I have been is a fan of Harley Quinn since she was introduced in Batman: The Animated Series ....more

Allies: Don’t Pretend to Come Out.

Over the weekend, Tyler Posey posted a video to his Snapchat. He was at Gay St and said, very happily. “That’s me ....more

The problem with Ilvermorny (as world building)

You easily find a lot of posts discussing JK Rowling’s latest expansion into the Harry Potter universe – Ilvermorny, the North American Wizarding School. Most centering on the cultural appropriation that the school is built on. (And from better sources than me) But here’s the cliffnotes version – it’s a British Colonialist’s dream – Young Irish girl leaves England (on the Mayflower!) and eventually founds the first magic school ....more

Every time. Why there’s no need for heterosexual pride or white pride

On the internet, trending today, I saw something about white history month and “Heterosexual Pride Day”. Any time there’s a marginalized group celebrating themselves, out come white or straight people to wonder where the day is that they get to celebrate themselves. I’m going to be blunt ....more